Negative Polarity & BDSM

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Especially when you consider that it is equivalently hard to achieving 95% STS (almost never consider the welfare of other-selves). If you think about it in terms of what it really means, if one is 51% STO, it would imply one is thinking about helping others slightly more than they are thinking about the welfare of themselves. Frankly, if I objectively watch my own thoughts on a typical day, I'm frankly shocked, and somewhat appalled, at how much of my thoughts concern only my self rather than others. Of course, its possible I'm just not very polarized, but I tend to lean towards the opinion that this simple 51% orientation is a lot more "saintly" than we generally attribute it to be.

I wouldn't sweat it too much.  I've always found it much easier to approach it from the standpoint of acceptance vs control. One can have an extreme amount of acceptance, and it's rarely displayed, and yet to have control, means exerting that over one's environment on a constant basis.