Negative Polarity & BDSM

[Glow]

yeah, by 'healing exploration' I meant an attempt to grapple with the deeper issue; not that the actual experience and practice of what's been described in the OP is in itself of a healing nature; because, it frankly, is not.  

It's just a way of clarifying the original wound (if that's what it was), and trying to have a framework for what that infringement was.  So a positive entity might be drawn to these types of imaginings in an unbidden way, as the mind tries to get a handle on what the deeper, more buried issue is.

I'm glad this was clarified. I started out with abuse as a toddler and my instincts were perhaps initially to replay the dynamic/energy transfer I started with. mine was still green ray as even as a child I felt compassion but did not recieve. Replaying that was not healing.

True healing was when I started to want to experience sharing vs just giving. Funny how that sounds less STO but it is certainly more positive.

I have a good friend still stuck thinking they can only enjoy being taken from/giving then discarded as that was their first experiences as a young child. The deep feelings of shame and disgust are so deep at this point that green ray sex makes them feel uncomfortable with the love and feel a need to bolt so they repeat the comfortable old dynamic of only take or give which reinforcing their issue around sex. Even when tables are turned they do the discarding because the shame/disgust is to deep.

Reprogramming through new habits slowly little by little is the only thing that is ever going to heal that old wound so they can except they are worthy, and have no reason to feel shame.

I think play bdsm occasionally with people could be ok or even just harmless fun but I don't imagine it's very common that reinforcing those patterns will help someone rewrite new ones. That takes conscious awareness and effort to allow love into the exchange.

Just my thoughts

From experience if your instincts are to give and not receive finding someone who you are happy to receive from and at the same time give to (green ray) not just lust.
Is pretty powerful. That is healing.