Negative Polarity & BDSM

[rva_jeremy]

Perhaps to build off of what Jeremy and Jade are saying, I have been wondering the following inquiry: by what specific means can one disentangle undesired sexual distortions acquired as adolescents, such distortions having been embedded into one's sexuality by the mechanism of imprinting?

Yeah, this is a great question and I think the one that we'd all like to be able to answer. I don't think we're going to have success. For me, the key word in your question is "specific". These things are so magnificently and intimately personal and subjective that there is never going to be a one-size-fits-all practice that we're going to be able to come up with here. That's another reason why I'm glad we're (mostly) all on the same page with respect to accepting those here who find value in extreme practices: who in the heck knows what the right way for somebody else to balance is?

We know a few things for sure, right?

1. we know that rejecting the self and one's feelings is bad, a la what Reaper has said about one's triggers
   
2. we know that sex is a energetic, metaphysical, spiritual act in addition to being mental and bodily
   
3. we know that polarization plays some part in all this, in other words, the way we think about sexual dynamics has some impact on how purely we radiate or absorb
   

However, these are principles people can apply to their lives without all coming to same decisions when it comes to behavior in third density. And that's important.

Is it also worth pointing out at this juncture that "service to self" is not properly a synonym for "bad" or "evil"?