(10-03-2016, 07:30 PM)Bring4th_Jade Wrote:(10-03-2016, 11:54 AM)Minyatur Wrote:(10-03-2016, 10:15 AM)Bring4th_Jade Wrote: Are they something to plunder/be plundered, or are they something to treat with gentle, delicate efforts, like a fragile bloom?
I think this mentality misses on something. People are not either a plunderable prostitute or an overly fragile flowers that needs constant extra care. The Creator adapts and evolves and forever becomes stronger from it's experiences. Once it moves beyond having been a fragile flower that needed extra care, whether because it grows tired of receiving that or because it experienced a lack of it, then it is something other that needs to be seen as such.
There's just so many people that would just tell you to f*** off if you went to them treating them like a delicate flower. Why? Because they aren't a delicate flower and don't want to be treated as such. Not talking about a case where compassion hurts the other-self because of emotional wounds, just that they really don't see themselves as a delicate flower, which is, to some extent, a self-disempowering view of the self.
The point I was trying to make was that the butterfly treats the flower as it needs to be treated to have the most harmonic and mutually beneficial interaction possible. Treating others how they want to be treated is a delicate act in itself, because of the fact that there are infinite nuances in each interaction, just as there are infinite types of structures and folds that a flower can use to protect its nectar. I'm not implying a fragility in all other selves. I'm implying a fragility in the art of serving all other selves.
Most people don't want a stranger to come upon them in an aggressive manner upon first meaning. We also can't just rush into every situation in a super hero costume once we resolve to serve others. Most initial engagements involve a trepidation, a testing of the waters. I don't see flowers as something to be overly coddled or protected. But if you've ever raised plants that grow flowers, you know that to make a plant happy enough to even put forth a bud that turns into a full bloom usually takes a lot of specific care.
My point was more that sometimes distortions are mutually beneficial. Some girls could not be able to have a non-BDSM relationship and need someone who will also want that without faking liking it. In those cases, if you can't enjoy it then you just can't be the answer to someone else's needs and you need someone with the right distortions to provide service. Eventually they both can learn to love themselves in a manner which could be impossible if they tried to learn to love themselves with someone who doesn't resonate with their distortions.
We're not many for anything and we're not meant to be a way that can serve everyone. We're meant to be the answer to those we truly resonate with, and that comes in any kind of color.