The victimization of men

[Aion]

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Aion - I identify as balanced female/male since birth - I can happily wear make up (or not), wear dresses, cuddle animals, buy flowers, play pool in Biker pubs, learn Aikido, Tai Chi, Wing Chun Kung Fu, wear mens clothing, be listening, soothing, be passive, be assertive - I'm feminine and masculine in the one Self - and I feel really comfortable about it

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Okay. Not exactly what I meant, but whatever works for you.

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I identify as balanced female/male since birth

 was in reply to:

There are many tools in the toolbox of life and I think many of our distortions are like not understanding how to use the tools so we use them poorly and in weird ways. Once we begin to figure what the tool is used for we begin to learn to use it more proficiently. This is like the balance between masculine and feminine I think. Hard to imagine anybody just starting off with that balance down.

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I know it was and that still wasn't what I meant. I'm not talking about masculine and feminine gender roles but the dynamic energies that give rise to life. No, I don't believe anybody has this 'down' at birth, even someone who identifies equally 'male/female', that isn't the same thing. It's an ongoing process for all beings, dynamic and fluid, not static. If you believe you are perfectly balanced being from birth, well that's your own identity to work with. I don't believe it.

Further, if I'm being completely honest, the fact that out of the entirety of my post which was admittedly deeply personal and emotional you chose to focus on that one element and make it about yourself gives me the impression you don't really care to listen to what I was actually sharing and instead just found where you could make a 'counter-point', which doesn't make me feel particularly 'engaged' while contemplating my traumas. Instead it makes me want to be short with you because I don't feel listened to, so why say anything at that point?

Sorry if that seems like a 'cold shoulder' but that's just how I felt.