The victimization of men

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Additional comments (caveat) to the above article:


The imbalance of patriarchy has created a volatile damaging environment for all humans - and pregnant women and new mothers in particular. How the mother (and father) behave towards their infants and children is vitally important - and how a father treats the mother is essential in regard to how she will feel as a mother, as a woman, as the main person tasked with the immediate care and feeding of a new life. Whether she feels safe and supported or not will impact on the quality of her biology, breast milk, energy levels, responsiveness, sleep patterns, calmness (or otherwise)....

I was speaking about this earlier today with my Mother.  Parenting can't be so compartmentalized where one parent is responsible for being the bread winner and the other raising the children almost exclusively.  That is very much how it was in my household and of course in many others, if not most.  It really does need to be a team effort where both parents are there for their children, physically and emotionally.  Closeness in body and closeness in heart.  Of course there will be one parent who spends more time away from the home, but for the sake of the stability and strength of the family unit and each individual member, partaking in all the different aspects of raising children, I think is vitally important for both parents.  You know, helping each other out.  I think as we move closer towards 4d, we will see big changes in the way we raise our children.  I think in fact that will be one of the main focuses, if not the main focus, in early 4d.  Raising children with love and grace.  They deserve it.

I really agree with you.

I'm referring to the overall relationship of the 2 people - then - the emotional environment during her 9 months of pregnancy, then her support during labour and the months soon after birth... if a woman is being stressed by a partner (or worse)... she will potentially mother very poorly....re a 'team effort' for the first few months.... unless a newborn is bottle fed - the mother link/proximity is very physically close... but yes it's vital for a father to be involved from the very beginning also - he should be helping in every way possible... what works best will be different for each couple - some men (legacy of patriarchy) avoid being home or are confused what to do when at home after a newborn arrives...