Control, asking for help and healing codes

[Agua del Cielo]

i agree to a degree.

What i mean is the safety that a child would need and the trust that its being held when times get rough.
Since our controlling parts are actually parts of our inner child, the un-heal child, i think this is quite important.

edit:

an example for illustration

Lets assume a therapeutical situation.
A client comes and is holding back buried pain for example, by whatever means of control.

If you offer an athmosphere where the client can feel absolutely safe and supported, he can let go of control.
If the situation does not offer this safety, he will cling on to the control and nothing much will happen.