05-21-2017, 10:12 AM
Joseph, you have to stop trusting your mother at all. Putting the car title in her name has NOTHING to do with the price of your insurance.
My first piece of advice, a place to start, would be to see if you can't gain possession of that car. Try to buy it back from her, or offer her to buy it from you. Maybe she'd transfer the title to you for $500-$1000 or something - which would be something you could make a gofundme for (and get into writing before you hand her any money).
Maybe if you sit down and have a conversation with her and try to let her know you're going to try to get your stuff together, quit being a burden on her, you have people helping, etc. You've mentioned before that she's been reasonable about certain things. But my primary goal would be securing that vehicle. Shoot, you're in Arizona, you could live in that car year round - not saying that's ideal, but plenty of people do it. I lived out of my car and couch surfed for many months while I was 18-19. Again, better than being at home waiting for the shoe to drop.
As far as holding a job, now that I am spiritually aware and practicing the things I have learned, obviously catalyst is more easy to deal with. Once I was able to free my tie to my abusers in my family, I was able to break that cycle and no longer do I experience that abuse from my bosses. But otherwise, you just have to choose the discomfort/abuse that you prefer - the one you know (mom) or the one that's scary and unfamiliar (capitalist society and job system).
I know your situation sucks, the whole system sucks. But you need to recognize that you made these choices for yourself, on some level - as hard as they are. You incarnated on earth for a material, spiritual, and psychological struggle, as did we all. We have choices to make. If we can learn to best make those choices out of compassion, for yourself and others, then we can begin to find our way to the solution.
I don't mean to be harsh. But I just want to say that it seems like you're having trouble taking responsibility for your situation at all - that you are at the whims of others entirely. This may feel true, this may be true - but you can change that. You can take responsibility, and gain control of your life. And you have help from compassionate people - which is a lot more than most people in situations similar to yours have.
My first piece of advice, a place to start, would be to see if you can't gain possession of that car. Try to buy it back from her, or offer her to buy it from you. Maybe she'd transfer the title to you for $500-$1000 or something - which would be something you could make a gofundme for (and get into writing before you hand her any money).
Maybe if you sit down and have a conversation with her and try to let her know you're going to try to get your stuff together, quit being a burden on her, you have people helping, etc. You've mentioned before that she's been reasonable about certain things. But my primary goal would be securing that vehicle. Shoot, you're in Arizona, you could live in that car year round - not saying that's ideal, but plenty of people do it. I lived out of my car and couch surfed for many months while I was 18-19. Again, better than being at home waiting for the shoe to drop.
As far as holding a job, now that I am spiritually aware and practicing the things I have learned, obviously catalyst is more easy to deal with. Once I was able to free my tie to my abusers in my family, I was able to break that cycle and no longer do I experience that abuse from my bosses. But otherwise, you just have to choose the discomfort/abuse that you prefer - the one you know (mom) or the one that's scary and unfamiliar (capitalist society and job system).
I know your situation sucks, the whole system sucks. But you need to recognize that you made these choices for yourself, on some level - as hard as they are. You incarnated on earth for a material, spiritual, and psychological struggle, as did we all. We have choices to make. If we can learn to best make those choices out of compassion, for yourself and others, then we can begin to find our way to the solution.
I don't mean to be harsh. But I just want to say that it seems like you're having trouble taking responsibility for your situation at all - that you are at the whims of others entirely. This may feel true, this may be true - but you can change that. You can take responsibility, and gain control of your life. And you have help from compassionate people - which is a lot more than most people in situations similar to yours have.
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