05-31-2017, 11:27 AM
Hi Y'all - Posting here because I checked with C_A to see how he's going - and it's not so good.
He's still really 'stuck' energetically, energy-stamina wise; his mother is engaging in very toxic behaviour, and his feelings are really bruised from this thread and his life on the whole.
If any of us feel moved to do so - send him the softest loving energies of acceptance and solidarity; kindness and strength.
He's very brave to have been so open here - and to have held on against such difficult catalyst for so much of his life.
It would be so good if this community could brainstorm some way of actively and at a practical level, helping and sharing support for each other.
Could we set up a thread with a monitored blog so that a person could check in with us daily during their hardest times - and we be a team of cheerleaders/ideas people/counsellors etc specifically for that person ? Sort of like an interactive blog calendar - so say C_A could write how his day went what ideas he tried from the advice given the day before etc etc... how he's feeling... like personal trainers "spotting" a person with their 'weights'...
I know we've been trying to do that with this thread; and a person can only be helped as much as they are ready for/or align with solutions... but it saddens me that b4 could be a place of helping and yet is more an ideas, arguing, intellectualised, combative forum of spiritual discussion.
when you look at the millions of words written over the years and the effort all that takes - wouldn't it be good if b4 was actually a place were a wanderer could come and feel unconditionally accepted and safe and get HELP.
?
ps: I DO include myself as culpable in the interactions that have been negative and unhelpful for members... (with the caveat that b4 so often requires me to be so freaking defensive/self protective that I'm not able to safely express my goofy, loving, happy self here.)
(It's the last place I want to be when I'm feeling vulnerable... when it could be (should be) the FIRST place to go when feeling vulnerable.)
C_A? can we create a support 'team' for you? *goes to check if C_A has a blog on b4*
He's still really 'stuck' energetically, energy-stamina wise; his mother is engaging in very toxic behaviour, and his feelings are really bruised from this thread and his life on the whole.
If any of us feel moved to do so - send him the softest loving energies of acceptance and solidarity; kindness and strength.
He's very brave to have been so open here - and to have held on against such difficult catalyst for so much of his life.
It would be so good if this community could brainstorm some way of actively and at a practical level, helping and sharing support for each other.
Could we set up a thread with a monitored blog so that a person could check in with us daily during their hardest times - and we be a team of cheerleaders/ideas people/counsellors etc specifically for that person ? Sort of like an interactive blog calendar - so say C_A could write how his day went what ideas he tried from the advice given the day before etc etc... how he's feeling... like personal trainers "spotting" a person with their 'weights'...
I know we've been trying to do that with this thread; and a person can only be helped as much as they are ready for/or align with solutions... but it saddens me that b4 could be a place of helping and yet is more an ideas, arguing, intellectualised, combative forum of spiritual discussion.
when you look at the millions of words written over the years and the effort all that takes - wouldn't it be good if b4 was actually a place were a wanderer could come and feel unconditionally accepted and safe and get HELP.
?
ps: I DO include myself as culpable in the interactions that have been negative and unhelpful for members... (with the caveat that b4 so often requires me to be so freaking defensive/self protective that I'm not able to safely express my goofy, loving, happy self here.)
(It's the last place I want to be when I'm feeling vulnerable... when it could be (should be) the FIRST place to go when feeling vulnerable.)
C_A? can we create a support 'team' for you? *goes to check if C_A has a blog on b4*
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