Principles of Healing: A Discussion

[Diana]

I used to remind myself of the guideline, “Heal your own life and you help heal your society.”  Sure, I can be of more service to others by moving beyond my previous traumas.  One drawback to that guideline is that it can be used as an excuse to postpone giving and helping.

If a person is in denial and using excuses, well, that's their issue. They will eventually move forward and break inertia.

Even wounded, we can can give and help. To give is to lend support, to do things such as listen. For example, I have openly talked with people, even relative strangers, about their cancer. I just listen and don't prescribe any course of treatment because I don't want to weaken their belief systems. I always sense relief from them, as most people are too afraid to talk to them about it. Just being in a state of love and acceptance of who they are and where they are at is the gift.

But to try to heal others is not necessary, and blurs the line into controlling others. By being healed yourself, your energy will affect others. If you are asked a question, you will know how to answer without being attached to the outcome. If you are not healed, you will be attached to your wounds with emotional content and a feeling of no control, so it follows that you will be seeking control and this translates to other people's problems. I'm making this rather black and white, because there probably are no completely healed people on this planet. But I do think healing self is the very first step. For all others, love and acceptance.

If we address the subject of coming across a car accident or a starving person, we do what needs to be done to alleviate suffering. This is rather different than desiring to heal others.