12-22-2010, 09:40 AM
Quote: Sometimes the greatest service you can offer a person is to grab them by the shoulders and tell them to get ahold of themselves, they're being silly. Words of wisdom count just as much as physically doing things for someone. And yes, sometimes, I believe that by letting someone do something on their own, you are serving them, because there is an important lesson to be learned for them.
Yeah, finding that balance is hard. Seems the more I do the less they think they have to do. IE- I have a brother-Professional Musician- who wants to do nothing but play music.He wants to learn nothing else.I have given him advice and help for a number of years and the more I do the less he wants to do. The other day his car broke down. I saw myself getting angry because he had not taken my advice in the past in regards to his car. Now it sat there dead. I still have not been able to balance when I am in service and when I am just enable dysfunctional behavior.