Depression and Accepting or Resisting Futility

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I also want to add that some people, especially the older generations, cannot step outside their distortions and beliefs to have a genuine relationship with someone who doesn't fit into their beliefs or they don't accept or disagree with.

For the vast majority of my life - for more than 30 years my parents did not have a true relationship with me, but more of a relationship of an image of me in their head and interacting with them was very painful as they would ignore me and my wishes and continue to talk to me as if i was a child off track who needed to be guided back to their image/their construct of what my life should entail.

Things changed quite a bit in the last few years, but both my parents became more spiritual and I made greater efforts in understanding and accepting them which ended up being mirrored in how they accept me.

But I don't think necessarily ever parental relationship can be salvaged, and frankly I had given up hope of it and did not expect to do so for most of my adult life. At some point though, it seemed all parties involved were ready for growth, and it happened.