Crawling in the dark with a candle

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Whereas a more efficient use of our time incarnate would be focusing on interpersonal relationships (i.e. making "the choice").

People make great mirrors, yes. I think it was Tony Robbins that said the purpose for relationships was to "magnify emotions" (i.e. put catalyst in your face). Another friend said to me bluntly "relationships are created and maintained for the satisfaction of complementary neurotic structures. When satisfaction is not forthcoming, the relationship is terminated."

But be aware that there are specific ethical themes or principles (of the logos) that we learn about ourselves through the relationships. There are a million types of possible relationships, all potentially offering some growth opportunity (shedding light on an aspect of the logos). If we find that we are compelled to address something particular in our relationships - something strangely meaningful and important, then we are necessarily *new at it* (as you can imagine, in that "newbe" role, we are hardly in a position to judge the catalyst for others) and it's a specific learning opportunity. Therefore, I would never decide for another what is more efficient catalyst - it's merely projection from role identification. What's efficient is always that which is compelling to a person when an honest assessment is made.