Does consensual sexual domination cause energy blockages?

[TheSeekersLighthouse]

This was an odd issue for me, as I am a lightworker, and have been strictly for the light all my life. I am very open about myself, and thus will describe here my story re this as I hope it may help some. This is a gay couple relationship, but the dynamics will be almost the same. A word of warning, I do go into it quite intimately, so to those who do not wish to read those kinds of details may skip forward

One aspect of my life that I like, and enjoy with my husband is BDSM. Master/Slave play. Note, that this is done VERY CAREFULLY and a safeword is always possible to withdraw consent/end the play and preserve the free will of both parties. I like the feeling, if submissive to be in total trust to my partner, or if dominant, giving my partner a good time and exploring those areas of the psyche in a safe way. Someone previously mentioned that this is about TRUST. I could not emphasise this more, and in part due to this and other parts of our relationship, we have complete, total trust in our relationship. I do not worry if he is cheating on me, I do not worry about any of that, I trust, love and adore him.

I am what you would call a switch, and can switch roles, seldom do dom/sub exclusively, though was mostly sub for a long time.

In our general relationship and in private, we both are very loving/caring to each other and others, and I adore my husband. We treat each other as equals overall, and he is the kindest soul I know. We like to do things like feed the homeless together (our idea of a date out), and both have a full commitment to the service-to-others path to the best of our ability. We also have our own lives and hobbies outside of our marriage, such as our own friends. He is a caregiver, as well. We also both place great emphasis on free will of others and as such seldom get moved by the negativity of others.

When we want to 'play', this may include aspects of the following: foot/boot worship, going into a dominant role with a collar/puppy play, having your partner worship you (if dominant) or submissive (you worship them). Leather, and other play is typical. Maybe relaxing and have your partner serve you by licking your feet or massaging you as you relax and do whatever. Foot worship being a common kink of mine. If I were sub, foot worship/licking is also a common one. This is just a fetish, and probably my biggest one, so it generally comes into play with me. Whipping is quite good, but not at an insane level.

We have explored degrading one another verbally, but I find this one to be the most at risk of a negative transfer and is actually the only time my partner safe worded and I felt very awkward as that is not in my MO, so we don't do that. It was an experiment more than anything. I found with previous meetings of people i played with and not had a relationship with, being degraded was quite fun (me as the sub), but i find where I am at now in my development, it seems to be vibration ally incompatible with a loving relationship and thus has not been used bar that one experiment in my marriage.

In the forms above I describe, the submissive technically holds all the power, via use of a safeword. My partner has only safeworded once as mentioned above, but that is why it is there so you do not go too far and always preserve the free-will aspect.

As for the energy exchange, this is one aspect where you must be very careful. I have found moments where we do BDSM, provided you place great emphasis on the sub having the ability to stop at any time and preserving free will, and have an overall loving relationship, I found the play itself to be neutral in its polarity when you play like this unless you do it for the purpose of making your partner happy or via TRUST (which again was mentioned previously in the thread) which would be positive, you can use such play to reinforce love/trust. Being bound and tied up completely helpless with your entire trust in the love of your life? Great feeling.

Of course, it can also also be a vector for abuse in some individuals, and it can also be taken too far. If you do it for your own personal gain and manipulate your sub into it, even if they enjoy it, it is probably negative. Those sorts of people though, do not last long in the BDSM community, as this is one thing it strives to avoid.

I also find if you lust/hunger for it, orange-ray blockages can be an issue. I do find me and my partner can achieve green/blue/indigo ray transfer with ease when vanilla. When doing BDSM, I find the ray transfer to vary. Some having been green/blue (think, the honest communication can go VERY DEEP when exploring your deepest aspects of self and shadow self with your partner, and to do this safely requires total honest communication and compassion), others if the mood got very lustful to be blocked at orange-ray. This was particular on the day my partner safe worded.

I have also found something to tally with Ra's statement, that attempting to 'humiliate' your sub, even when consenting may cause a negative transfer, and I suspect full 24/7 master/slave type setups may, but I have not nor have a desire to experience that, so cannot observe it.

There is also the time when I dominated with someone who had self-hate issues unbeknown to me. This caused problems and required energy healing afterwards on him. It all depends on the person. Those of sound mind and balanced, it can be another way to have fun. Those who may have issues, it can cause problems if improperly used. It is a tool in the box of exploring the creator, and can be well.

Whenever I did BDSM, i always observed other-self as the creator equal to me at it's core, even when watching porn.

It is a grey area. I do not think it is an entirely positive desire, but i don't think that it can be a totally negative one, either. Depends how/why you do such play. I have seen some examples such as a profile I read a few years back on the kink site recon:

"I am looking for genuine subs to own and control" <- with an overall negative vibe, or

"Looking to have some fun with subs" <- this one I met, had a cup of tea and a laugh with, and served him and had fun, then had another cup of tea and talked about life and other stuff, and that was that!

I had some flip out on me for daring to speak to them, in total full master/slave type mood before it started, others who would have a natter and a chat, and it all depended on the person involved.

I met quite a few spiritual/pagan type people on recon, and had many good/fun times with guys, and actually we all acknowledged the benefits to our paths. And outside of kink? had a good chat, and a nice time as people. Now I am married and have long since toned that down, but I do not regret exploring those aspects of myself and others with the people that I did.

Some kink involves kink without the dom/sub aspect, such as feet/leather/boot and other similar fetishes on their own.

It is such a varied world, and I don't think it could be summed up in a paragraph.

I say enjoy, but for those who place emphasis on free-will, please play with a safe word. I say this is essential even if you know your partner well, to fully preserve the free-will of your sub and not leave it to your judgement. A dominant should also have a safeword, if the sub asks them to do something that they do not wish to do.

Note that I am also in a relationship involving full trust and we are both open and happy with each other and are fulfilled and loved in all areas. Trusting your partner is essential to this. The BDSM community often uses the mantra: safe, sane, consensual and as such, should be treated thus.

Explore, and play safe folks!