The unconditional love myth, as described by Donovan Sharpe

[Diana]

Unconditional love is a rather misnamed concept in my opinion, due to the human understanding of the word "love," and in that sense it is a human myth because human understanding is generally so limited.

Unconditional love must go hand-in-hand with personal responsibility and accountability. The big hill to get over concerning unconditional love is to get over equating it with, though making it bigger than, earthly love (romantic love, friendship love, familial love, etc.). Unconditional love is acceptance and detachment from attachment (taking self and what serves the self out of the equation—although detachment and acceptance DO serve the self).

It must all start with the self. That's why personal responsibility and accountability are key. Until you accept yourself—by becoming who you see yourself as, and not burying or avoiding personal responsibility and accountability—there is no way you will accept that others accept you for who you are. And when you do accept yourself, you won't NEED their "unconditional love." 

It does become a bit isolating when you get to this place (while here anyway). It's not all roses and unicorns. You look out at the world and accept it for what it is—you accept it and feel the suffering (and the joy). But it isn't that simple here (though it may seem to be for discarnate entities just looking on here) because personal responsibility and accountability also mean that you make decisions on when to "help" and when not to. As Ra says, when you come upon a starving entity, the proper response is to feed that entity. Nothing is simple, though many try to say it is. Life is a labyrinth of growing and balancing.

Imagine when you get something you wanted, such as a friend finally taking your advice after a passionate plea on your part. Have you ever felt a vague anticlimax, or niggling feeling then, even though you might also feel relief (because you have succeeded)? Imagine yourself letting go of your passionate desire for that friend to do what you think he or she should, stepping back, and standing with no attachment to the outcome, and now being able to just feel the love and caring you have for that person. Have you ever done that and felt your heart swell? I'm not saying we should do nothing; I'm saying that detachment from outcome is what makes love unconditional.