How to properly cut cords with somebody?

[EvolvingPhoenix]

Doing a recapitulation, with the intention of "un-meshing" yourself with another person, has energetic efficacy. But if you are doing it to focus on something you want to "resolve," in other words, "fix," then you would be stuck energetically in a loop and not moving forward. (By "you" I mean anyone.) 

So visualizing cutting ties is fine, but you must also be moving forward in life—on to other things. Focus of self, not someone else. Reach for potential of self. Instead of worrying about how you interact with another, just focus on how you act. Become who you want to be. Don't worry about how you are with another. It's sounds paradoxical to focus on self to be of service to others, but it isn't. Either way—STO or STS—self is the first responsibility in evolution. As you progress in your own conscious evolution, you automatically serve the whole, and the way you treat and serve others follows from that place of consciousness.

That is currently what I am doing, hence this thread. I'm not trying to reconcile.