Empathy

[Cainite]

I deal with that a lot. I am by nature a direct and honest person, and I have been trying to balance that with the concept of kindness for many years. It's not simple. By being true to your nature you honor self and that creates the self-worth you mentioned and personal empowerment. Years ago I started recognizing the need to consider more than straightforward honesty in the equation of communication, and I went way out of balance trying for kindness. I'm still working on it. Mixing kindness with honesty still feels to me like mixing water with oil.

There have been times when I infringed on the free will of others by expressing to them truths that they had been hiding in the deeper mind. granting them access to it. but recently when that happened I felt guilty because of not being responsible. we always have more things to balance : )

Self censor is really limiting for artists, writers, etc. and is a reason why great works of art were usually made for the self and not necessarily to be released for public. my favorite musician got in trouble because of others blowing things out of proportion when he made a mistake, u know..

By "shadow self" what do you refer to?

When I'm comfortable and completely myself I may not be very emotional but I'm soft
This attracts people who want to take advantage by taking and not giving and mocking us for it.

also being different and solitary means there will always be people who want to pick on you, dominate you, they think they will
Fix the self worth issues I mentioned by doing something to prove they're superior. or usually their ''side'' has to be superior (''u're one of us or agaisnt us'' mentality)

So many times when there's supposed to be a line or sth, someone decides to take my place and totally disregard me
It's like they know I don't like defending myself. (it doesn't feel very noble)

So a little help from the shadow side (the part that is done with all that and has a claim to healing) can help.

It can change my voice (not in a villianish way, lol) make me serious, ... to help in a situation when I allow it. if it helps the highest good

My shadow side can defend me or other things through other means. but usually I handle things with the light side,

Recently I handled two ppl that were trying to dominate me with calm and understanding but my subconscious caused me to burst laughing
after I did that (which I stopped after a seocond). I believe it was a little kick that was needed. the loud laughter came a second after I thanked them (lol) and it displayed some sort of hidden power.

I've been looking at it the way I understand channelings speak of integrating the shadow side. having it run with you as a wolf (a good boy)


I have to admit it's still not very pleasant having to stand up for myself. standing up for others comes easier. even though I let
others usually work things out themselves and still feel like a guest on planet earth. But I will have to do it when it's responsiblity and not infringement on the will of the creator

. It's not simple. By being true to your nature you honor self and that creates the self-worth you mentioned and personal empowerment.

Interesting. that helps!