How do STS-beings meditate?

[Kaaron]

It's weird, but I feel even when I send love to others and energetically help others that it's self-serving.

I like to tune into the energy of Unity.

I do focus on increasing my own density, and feeling what I think is intelligent infinity.

I just want to go where it feels natural. Where I can best help both others and myself.

I don't like being separate.

I want to be where I can't really abuse my power.

It seems like you're just over thinking it.
Sending love to others will feel good. Even if you do it with this intention, the fact that you are embracing another self, makes it an STO action, by default.
You are radiant...not absorbent.
To love the self as all, is to love the all as self.