Hypnotic Regression

[sillypumpkins]

Great central sun,

i enjoy reading many of your thoughtful posts.

I remember listening to a jordan peterson lecture a while ago, where he mentions that families often like to keep other members of the family "down" so to speak. it's an interesting phenomenon. i've had experience with it too

I think it's because, for example, if your mother were to see you thriving and doing really well for yourself, her reaction is "well.... if hes doing what he needs to be doing, then that means i need to put in the work and do the same.... well, we cant have that!" and then comes the gaslighting and cruelness.

families can be difficult to deal with when there's that kind of thing going on. because on one hand, we really care about what our family (especially parents) thinks of us. on the other, it is clearly toxic when the gaslighting starts happening and all that. so you're kind of left with a decision to make, do I want to keep subjecting myself to this oppressive behavior that will ultimately hinder my growth? or do I want to break free from it?

it's not an easy decision to make but I hope you have a sense for what your answer might be

i dont know why your mother behaves like she does. or your father. i'm not going to judge either of them. but it doesn't sound like a healthy situation/dynamic at all.

you can do something about it

hope that helps a little bit. i love you

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