04-27-2020, 06:41 AM
People pleasing is caused by a fawn response to fear (it is one of the four f's - flight, fight, freeze and fawn). It is intended to disarm the other by supplication. Only you truly know if you act from fear or love.
Love does not demand any deeds. It is unkind to allow a person to engage in abuse. The deepest parts of ourselves do not distinguish the self from other, so any abuse is also committed to the self.
I cannot seem to project love without at least an anticipation or hope that I will receive love back. I have received insight on all other questions, bar this one. I have no idea how it is done. My love is therefore coloured in this way and I am destined to be hurt by not being loved back by those people I love deeply.
Thoughts?
Love does not demand any deeds. It is unkind to allow a person to engage in abuse. The deepest parts of ourselves do not distinguish the self from other, so any abuse is also committed to the self.
I cannot seem to project love without at least an anticipation or hope that I will receive love back. I have received insight on all other questions, bar this one. I have no idea how it is done. My love is therefore coloured in this way and I am destined to be hurt by not being loved back by those people I love deeply.
Thoughts?
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