Loving without expectation of return

[flofrog]

People pleasing is caused by a fawn response to fear (it is one of the four f's - flight, fight, freeze and fawn). It is intended to disarm the other by supplication. Only you truly know if you act from fear or love.

Love does not demand any deeds. It is unkind to allow a person to engage in abuse. The deepest parts of ourselves do not distinguish the self from other, so any abuse is also committed to the self.

I cannot seem to project love without at least an anticipation or hope that I will receive love back. I have received insight on all other questions, bar this one. I have no idea how it is done. My love is therefore coloured in this way and I am destined to be hurt by not being loved back by those people I love deeply.

Thoughts?

Louisabell for me it stopped when I started to see more humor to the whole experience . But it was also after having passed through heavier things. So it might have been concomitant with new found lightness ?

Suddenly you sort of see your way through things and unconditional love becomes way more accessible. You don’t think really anymore about it. I don’t know if this helps, but I sure hope so