12-13-2020, 05:43 PM
Hi sillypumpkins, sorry to hear that things are so rough for you right now.
Firstly, I just want to say how cool I think it is that you have a person in your life that you're so close to. The relationship you have with your twin is very special, and you've probably experienced a type of closeness with your sibling that most people will never know. I think your twin has just reached a certain level of lowered inhibition with you, and is acting very impulsively around you, for better or worse.
As you have stated, the relationship dynamic is no longer working for you. It appears that your relationship has reached a point where it is no longer tenable as it is. There is the calling for a maturation process to occur between the two of you, and catalyst may continue to be difficult until this occurs. It will likely be a constant pressure until there is a release.
Sometimes certain relationship dynamics need to be laid to rest so that way can be made for something new to spring up. However, the shedding process can be tumultuous and painful. I recommend the invoking of grace for both you and your twin during this difficult time, remembering to give him extra space and tolerance if he acts out in resistance to the changes.
So, by your comments, I think you know what needs to happen, but maybe you're just a little too worried to really go through with it? Maybe you're seeking external permission because of the guilt you feel of what needs to happen?
Well, it's clear to me that you have to set firmer boundaries with your twin. There is no way around it, it just has to be done, for the both of you to move forward. You need to let him know that it is no longer OK how he treats you, and that your company is a privilege, not a right.
So how do you feel about that?
(note: sorry if I've been too direct, but I thought it would be OK as you've been sharing here so openly.
Take care all).
Firstly, I just want to say how cool I think it is that you have a person in your life that you're so close to. The relationship you have with your twin is very special, and you've probably experienced a type of closeness with your sibling that most people will never know. I think your twin has just reached a certain level of lowered inhibition with you, and is acting very impulsively around you, for better or worse.
As you have stated, the relationship dynamic is no longer working for you. It appears that your relationship has reached a point where it is no longer tenable as it is. There is the calling for a maturation process to occur between the two of you, and catalyst may continue to be difficult until this occurs. It will likely be a constant pressure until there is a release.
Sometimes certain relationship dynamics need to be laid to rest so that way can be made for something new to spring up. However, the shedding process can be tumultuous and painful. I recommend the invoking of grace for both you and your twin during this difficult time, remembering to give him extra space and tolerance if he acts out in resistance to the changes.
So, by your comments, I think you know what needs to happen, but maybe you're just a little too worried to really go through with it? Maybe you're seeking external permission because of the guilt you feel of what needs to happen?
Well, it's clear to me that you have to set firmer boundaries with your twin. There is no way around it, it just has to be done, for the both of you to move forward. You need to let him know that it is no longer OK how he treats you, and that your company is a privilege, not a right.
So how do you feel about that?
(note: sorry if I've been too direct, but I thought it would be OK as you've been sharing here so openly.
Take care all).
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