Other-selves and projection

[sillypumpkins]

Yeah, Dtris, thank you for pointing that out. My responsibility in that situation has definitely been hiding in my blind spot.

I've had this tendency of like..... I don't know, when someone points out things about my behavior that bothers them, I can get really defensive in a way of like, "well that was my choice, that's what I wanted to do at that time, so why are you challenging that?" Which is like, really unloving and just sort of toxic as well. I suppose it comes down to my inability to grasp how my actions affect other people perhaps.

I have an easier time when someone points out maybe like, if my chewing is bothering them, that's real easy for me to understand, yknow? But when it comes to bigger things like relationships, or how I spend my time, or my choice of where I want to live, it can really trigger me because on the surface it doesn't seem to involve anyone else. But it often does. And I think I need to recognize that more.

Thank you again