how do you open the heart chakra without loving everyone?

[Diana]

Secondly, I hate to break it to you, but if you want to reach fourth density positive, you better get used to and learn to enjoy being a "doormat". 4th density entities spend 97%+ of their time in service to others, without expectation of return. Much of that time is spent in service to those poor sleeping 3rd density entities who are very rarely appreciative of their efforts. The service itself is the reward, not the gratitude or transformation of the one we are serving. We only have control over our own state of gratitude and transformation, and we do that through service.

I don't see it this way (at least, the doormat idea). I don't think at all that anyone needs to be a doormat.

The reason I say this is because one can be of service to others and have no expectation of return—in other words, no attachment to outcome and no expectation of a reward. This detachment eliminates the possibility of being a doormat. The feeling of being a doormat derives, I think, from an idea that one has been used, and that implies one should have gotten something in return. A person can't feel used if they offered service for free with no attachment to outcome.