Respecting other's free will

[Ohr Ein Sof]

I don't think it's quite necessary to go into the nitty gritty details, but long story short, a personal relationship of mine has become tumultuous over the last few years.

It's gotten to a point now where small things set my friend off. It's pretty obvious to me that they are hanging on to a lot of anger, and so (seemingly) 'small' things will happen, and it will trigger intense catalyst for this person. Once it's triggered, this person has a hard time keeping their cool and so it becomes difficult for me to have a conversation with them. That might be the understatement of the century, but.... anyways, the details aren't particularly important.

My main thing is: every time this has come up with my friend, I feel the urge to tell them how their behavior makes me feel. However, lately I have begun to feel that I am violating this person's free will by saying this, because every time I do, it is clear that this person doesn't even want to see how I feel about it.

So it has become a bit of a Catch-22 situation for me. This person wants to "talk things out" with me, and yet... it's clear that they aren't willing to understand where I'm coming from, so what can I say? I don't want to violate their free will in this situation, if they truly do not want to see this.

The only option I see now..... is to simply be silent and do what I need to do for myself.

Does anyone resonate here with what I'm saying?

Time for a self to self talk without other self (lol)...
My thought is.......well, this is catalyst for you more than it is for them. It seems to be bothering you enough to write it here to possibly gain some insight. Which I think is awesome.
But, can you reflect on any of your relationships and see if there is a breakdown in communication when it comes to "your feelings" as in, being ignored or played off as if they really do not matter? Like the other human can say anything but when it is your turn to spew your truth, you never get to?
I mean truthfully you are not in your friend's head, you are in your head where this is very bothersome. So this is your catalyst. Perhaps it is your friend's as well but how can you know that? What you do know is how this makes you feel. And to me, this is where you begin, with the emotion. Your emotions are offering you a clue possibly as to something that could need healing, attention, understanding and wisdom.
I would meditate on the situation. Replay it in my mind before bedtime and ask for clarity in my evening prayer.
I hope you find healing and lots of love, Silly.