03-27-2022, 08:55 AM
I am drawn to this discussion ... to push my own understanding a bit, and explore judgment and discernment.
I wonder if I can blur the line a little bit between self-judgment and judgment from others. Can it be dissolved a little?
When I can dissolve this line, there is just a single voice (so to speak), whether it seemingly comes from a voice within my own head, or from another.
There is a judgment put before me: how do I greet this judgment? How do I react to this label?
I had an incident wherein my reaction really surprised me. A stranger (drunk or high) threatened and screamed racial slurs in my face. I stood in silence only a foot or two between us. I was the object of her rage at that moment. I didn't take it personally. I was concerned for her welfare. I simply saw her anger and rage, and possibly hurt and wounds under it.
This incident stands out because my reaction was quite atypical for me, as well as those of my family, friends, and bystanders.
Everyone else was upset and scared by it, except me, when I was the one in her cross-hairs. I understand their reactions: I am a small female, and the other person was a female transvestite (male body), and bigger in height and weight. We are different races. It could be perceived that I was at risk, but I felt none.
I wasn't scared, angry, offended ... I didn't have any of the 'normal' reactions. I wasn't being consciously spiritual, either.
At that moment, she was raging at me, but I saw that she was raging against something other than me, because I was a total stranger to her.
Today, I wonder if there's something in this incident that I can learn from because far too often, I am caught up in judgment, whether from myself or other.
I wonder if I can blur the line a little bit between self-judgment and judgment from others. Can it be dissolved a little?
When I can dissolve this line, there is just a single voice (so to speak), whether it seemingly comes from a voice within my own head, or from another.
There is a judgment put before me: how do I greet this judgment? How do I react to this label?
I had an incident wherein my reaction really surprised me. A stranger (drunk or high) threatened and screamed racial slurs in my face. I stood in silence only a foot or two between us. I was the object of her rage at that moment. I didn't take it personally. I was concerned for her welfare. I simply saw her anger and rage, and possibly hurt and wounds under it.
This incident stands out because my reaction was quite atypical for me, as well as those of my family, friends, and bystanders.
Everyone else was upset and scared by it, except me, when I was the one in her cross-hairs. I understand their reactions: I am a small female, and the other person was a female transvestite (male body), and bigger in height and weight. We are different races. It could be perceived that I was at risk, but I felt none.
I wasn't scared, angry, offended ... I didn't have any of the 'normal' reactions. I wasn't being consciously spiritual, either.
At that moment, she was raging at me, but I saw that she was raging against something other than me, because I was a total stranger to her.
Today, I wonder if there's something in this incident that I can learn from because far too often, I am caught up in judgment, whether from myself or other.