04-13-2022, 10:49 AM
(04-13-2022, 08:31 AM)Jeremy Wrote: One inner project of mine is becoming less brash in my responses to people. There was a thread here quite a few years ago where people were either in the compassion camp or brutal honesty camp but I’m trying to find a middle ground.
Is there a difference in information between the 2 camps? And is it possible the latter camp only appears that way because the truth is what it is?
There should be 2 key characteristics, the quality of the message (precision/ accuracy), and the delivery of the message (effectiveness). Do people conceal/avoid truth to just appear nice? Do people reveal truth harshly to just appear right/authoritative?
I know I fall more into the latter camp (honesty over potentially misleading "compassion"), although I don't see it as brutal, I just don't believe in obfuscating truth to avoid discomfort, but certainly believe in metering ones response to remain effective (coming off too harsh can be counter productive). People come here for answers and opinions, so being polite for polite sake to me is actually disrespectful even if the truth feels that way.
Also I do feel this presented dichotomy relates back to love/wisdom vs wisdom/love type expressions.