06-08-2009, 04:15 AM
How about... I hope you had a good mother.... :-/
I wish I had a clear answer for you. But basically all I can say is that, it's okay to choose for yourself if you feel you can't handle these guys. He is your father, he helped put you into the world. But that was his choice. It's your choice to decide if that deserves your everlasting love.
If you were around and there would be problems then perhaps there'd be something you could do, ring an alarm bell someplace for example. But that in itself is not enough reason to stick around. You don't carry the responsibility to keep your father who is an adult on the right track. You don't have to like or support his choices either.
For what it's worth. Being in a relationship does not mean we need to visit them every Sunday. A phone call now and again might be enough. And you can build up from there. If you break off the relationship then that move is pretty much final. The possibility to rebuild is much smaller.
So I think I'd personally not break off the relationship, but just show my nose less and less, and less...
Good luck friend.
I wish I had a clear answer for you. But basically all I can say is that, it's okay to choose for yourself if you feel you can't handle these guys. He is your father, he helped put you into the world. But that was his choice. It's your choice to decide if that deserves your everlasting love.
If you were around and there would be problems then perhaps there'd be something you could do, ring an alarm bell someplace for example. But that in itself is not enough reason to stick around. You don't carry the responsibility to keep your father who is an adult on the right track. You don't have to like or support his choices either.
For what it's worth. Being in a relationship does not mean we need to visit them every Sunday. A phone call now and again might be enough. And you can build up from there. If you break off the relationship then that move is pretty much final. The possibility to rebuild is much smaller.
So I think I'd personally not break off the relationship, but just show my nose less and less, and less...
Good luck friend.