Vince, I'm sorry for the loss of your mother and that the relationship with your father didn't work out. I have a few ideas and suggestions to consider, with the usual disclaimer that if any of them don't resonate with you, just discard!
I suspect that there is more to this beneath the surface. You said your pastor recommended ending your relationship with your father - was that because he was gay, or some other reason (like abuse)? If the former, then I would invite you to ask yourself whether your distaste is based on him being gay, or the HIV concern, or the pedophilia concern.
If your concern is primarily for the children, then there is a simple action you could take to help the parents in that neighborhood raise their awareness. You could make a simple flyer saying 'Parents, please use extra caution with your children - possible pedophile in the area.' and stick them on the doorknobs in the neighborhood. (I would NOT specify the name of the man, because that would undoubtedly result in ostracizing. I once saw a Law & Order episode in which someone did that, and the man turned out to be innocent! Also, there is always the possibility that the could have been or will be healed - I wouldn't want the karmic responsibility of causing someone to be ostracized. Anyway, it isn't necessary to specify any names. The parents should be careful with their children's safety anyway! If you alert them to a possible danger in the area, then it becomes their responsibility to keep their children safe, not yours.)
If your concern is primarily fear of infection from HIV, then I would suggest doing some research on how the disease is transmitted (you've probably already done that). I don't know much about it, but, if I remember correctly, casual contact does not transmit the virus. If you are clear on what exactly can transmit the virus, you will be able to establish healthy boundaries with your father. There is no reason to expose yourself to the virus, but neither is there any reason to keep him at arm's length unnecessarily. OTOH, that's definitely creepy about your father getting sexually turned on by a simple hug, even from his own son. I definitely wouldn't want to hug someone either if they responded that way!
If, after some introspection, it turns out that your father's homosexuality is an issue for you, then I would suggest doing some healing work on that aspect of yourself. Your father's sexual orientation is a completely separate issue from the pedophilia issue; the former is no cause for concern because it harms no one, whereas the latter is obviously a concern because children could be harmed. Could your pastor have conveyed a wariness or even a prejudice towards gays, which might have influenced your relationship with your father when you were young? If so, it might be helpful to distinguish how much of this has to do with his homosexuality, and how much is because of other issues (like abuse, tolerance of or participation in pedophilia, etc.).
If your pastor recommended disassociation from your father because your father had abused you, then it would be understandable that you'd want to avoid any sort of relationship with him. At the same time, that's all the more reason to seek healing and clearing of karma via forgiveness. Again, this can be done from afar! You needn't put yourself into a stressful or dangerous situation. I agree with 3D that it's possible these men are polarizing towards STS. There's no way for us to know. What's important is the choice of forgiveness/love towards the person who harmed you.
You don't have to answer these questions here on the forum if you'd prefer not to. I offer them only as ideas to consider! What I'm suggesting is to separate the concerns and see if you can get to the core issue of what bothers you about your father's life and choices.
We ALL mirror to one another. If someone pushes our buttons, then there is something in ourselves in need of healing. That does NOT mean we must continue to be around that person! Sometimes the appropriate action is to avoid contact with that person. But, I think it's healthier (and more loving) to be very honest with ourselves as to what that person represents to us and why they bother us so much. Whether you continue contact with him or not, it's always advisable to send wishes of love and healing, even if from afar.
Regardless of what you choose as to whether or not to have any sort of contact with your father, since you asked what the Law of One says, that answer is easy: Forgiveness.
Forgiveness is, according to the Law of One, what eradicates karma. There is clearly some karma between you and your father. The answer is always the same whenever there is karma: Forgiveness.
Forgiveness does NOT mean you approve of the other person's actions. It simply means that you are choosing to LOVE that person anyway, and love is the most powerful force in the UniVerse! Love is what the UniVerse is made of!
I would suggest extending love and forgiveness (from afar!) to your father's lover also. It might sound strange to think of forgiving a pedophile, but those who have harmed others are the ones who need love the most!
Here is a fascinating story that you might find helpful:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSfbkG97H7Q
Love and blessings to you, as well as to those men.
I suspect that there is more to this beneath the surface. You said your pastor recommended ending your relationship with your father - was that because he was gay, or some other reason (like abuse)? If the former, then I would invite you to ask yourself whether your distaste is based on him being gay, or the HIV concern, or the pedophilia concern.
If your concern is primarily for the children, then there is a simple action you could take to help the parents in that neighborhood raise their awareness. You could make a simple flyer saying 'Parents, please use extra caution with your children - possible pedophile in the area.' and stick them on the doorknobs in the neighborhood. (I would NOT specify the name of the man, because that would undoubtedly result in ostracizing. I once saw a Law & Order episode in which someone did that, and the man turned out to be innocent! Also, there is always the possibility that the could have been or will be healed - I wouldn't want the karmic responsibility of causing someone to be ostracized. Anyway, it isn't necessary to specify any names. The parents should be careful with their children's safety anyway! If you alert them to a possible danger in the area, then it becomes their responsibility to keep their children safe, not yours.)
If your concern is primarily fear of infection from HIV, then I would suggest doing some research on how the disease is transmitted (you've probably already done that). I don't know much about it, but, if I remember correctly, casual contact does not transmit the virus. If you are clear on what exactly can transmit the virus, you will be able to establish healthy boundaries with your father. There is no reason to expose yourself to the virus, but neither is there any reason to keep him at arm's length unnecessarily. OTOH, that's definitely creepy about your father getting sexually turned on by a simple hug, even from his own son. I definitely wouldn't want to hug someone either if they responded that way!
If, after some introspection, it turns out that your father's homosexuality is an issue for you, then I would suggest doing some healing work on that aspect of yourself. Your father's sexual orientation is a completely separate issue from the pedophilia issue; the former is no cause for concern because it harms no one, whereas the latter is obviously a concern because children could be harmed. Could your pastor have conveyed a wariness or even a prejudice towards gays, which might have influenced your relationship with your father when you were young? If so, it might be helpful to distinguish how much of this has to do with his homosexuality, and how much is because of other issues (like abuse, tolerance of or participation in pedophilia, etc.).
If your pastor recommended disassociation from your father because your father had abused you, then it would be understandable that you'd want to avoid any sort of relationship with him. At the same time, that's all the more reason to seek healing and clearing of karma via forgiveness. Again, this can be done from afar! You needn't put yourself into a stressful or dangerous situation. I agree with 3D that it's possible these men are polarizing towards STS. There's no way for us to know. What's important is the choice of forgiveness/love towards the person who harmed you.
You don't have to answer these questions here on the forum if you'd prefer not to. I offer them only as ideas to consider! What I'm suggesting is to separate the concerns and see if you can get to the core issue of what bothers you about your father's life and choices.
We ALL mirror to one another. If someone pushes our buttons, then there is something in ourselves in need of healing. That does NOT mean we must continue to be around that person! Sometimes the appropriate action is to avoid contact with that person. But, I think it's healthier (and more loving) to be very honest with ourselves as to what that person represents to us and why they bother us so much. Whether you continue contact with him or not, it's always advisable to send wishes of love and healing, even if from afar.
Regardless of what you choose as to whether or not to have any sort of contact with your father, since you asked what the Law of One says, that answer is easy: Forgiveness.
Forgiveness is, according to the Law of One, what eradicates karma. There is clearly some karma between you and your father. The answer is always the same whenever there is karma: Forgiveness.
Forgiveness does NOT mean you approve of the other person's actions. It simply means that you are choosing to LOVE that person anyway, and love is the most powerful force in the UniVerse! Love is what the UniVerse is made of!
I would suggest extending love and forgiveness (from afar!) to your father's lover also. It might sound strange to think of forgiving a pedophile, but those who have harmed others are the ones who need love the most!
Here is a fascinating story that you might find helpful:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSfbkG97H7Q
Love and blessings to you, as well as to those men.