03-28-2011, 08:34 AM
(03-28-2011, 08:22 AM)3DMonkey Wrote: Hmmm "allowing her to feel". You don't have a choice in that matter. We are all allowed to feel.That was a bad choice of words by me. English is not my native language. Of course I can't "allow" her to feel or not to feel anything.
Quote:You are obviously trying to come to terms with how you feel about it all. It's why you posted.The reason to this post was if this a process of polarising. As my question was - I am doing it because I desire to help her husband. She is trying to control me by saying that she is going to prohibit him to go to the party if I am not available. I am doing it not because I have the desire to go out with her, but because I want to help. It might be STS or STO or nothing at all.
Quote:What is it that she possesses that gives you a sense of control over you? Her affection? Her finances? Her approval? Her support? We generally fear losing something when we feel controlled.
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