06-16-2009, 11:57 AM
Good Greetings Vince:
Have you considered that your dad is on a STS path and your are on a STO path? Each path is valid although not compatible.
Also, you must follow your heart and Higher Guidance. I agree with 3D Sunset in that sending unconditional love is a way to have contact with the Godspark that is your father... but that does not mean you have to place yourself in danger by being with someone who is making dangerous choices---- choices that place you or others in jeopardy.
There was a time in my life where I was at odds with my parental unit. They simply were from another time and place that was fading. My dad was very racist and blamed ethnic/racial groups and me for his own life experiences and my mother was a master manipulator--- and an energy stealer joined him in his cause. I had to cut myself off from them because they were trying to use me for their own ends. I found myself more hurt when I visited then and long afterwards.
In the absence of me in their lives they had to face their own issues--- because their issues were in front of them--- there was no one to distract themselves from the pain they felt and the pain they were creating. This led to them having no one to blame--- and no one to abuse. After about 5 years, I reunited with them and we began to build a new relationship based on respect and love. During the first couple of years, I would remind them that I did not have to present in their lives (whenever they started to revert to their old ways)... and if they wished to be mean then they were welcome to do so but I nor my children would be present in their lives.
During the time I was not speaking or relating to my folks, I sent them loving energy. And learned to build a family of choice by making friends with older folks that could fill that unmet need for love and acceptance and wisdom. This is an act of self-love for me. I still maintain those friendships and am much richer for it.
Since that original time, they have grown. Learning new ways to do things--- new ways of relating to others.
I wish you well.
fairyfarmgirl
Have you considered that your dad is on a STS path and your are on a STO path? Each path is valid although not compatible.
Also, you must follow your heart and Higher Guidance. I agree with 3D Sunset in that sending unconditional love is a way to have contact with the Godspark that is your father... but that does not mean you have to place yourself in danger by being with someone who is making dangerous choices---- choices that place you or others in jeopardy.
There was a time in my life where I was at odds with my parental unit. They simply were from another time and place that was fading. My dad was very racist and blamed ethnic/racial groups and me for his own life experiences and my mother was a master manipulator--- and an energy stealer joined him in his cause. I had to cut myself off from them because they were trying to use me for their own ends. I found myself more hurt when I visited then and long afterwards.
In the absence of me in their lives they had to face their own issues--- because their issues were in front of them--- there was no one to distract themselves from the pain they felt and the pain they were creating. This led to them having no one to blame--- and no one to abuse. After about 5 years, I reunited with them and we began to build a new relationship based on respect and love. During the first couple of years, I would remind them that I did not have to present in their lives (whenever they started to revert to their old ways)... and if they wished to be mean then they were welcome to do so but I nor my children would be present in their lives.
During the time I was not speaking or relating to my folks, I sent them loving energy. And learned to build a family of choice by making friends with older folks that could fill that unmet need for love and acceptance and wisdom. This is an act of self-love for me. I still maintain those friendships and am much richer for it.
Since that original time, they have grown. Learning new ways to do things--- new ways of relating to others.
I wish you well.
fairyfarmgirl