Acceptance and Will

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One makes a choice to be loving and accept that he/she is not perfect to be able to be loving in all situations. Hence being loving to oneself as well.

This is a good choice of words. It is important to understand that conflicting with or subverting another's negative actions is not an act of control. It is best defined as serving the creator in a positive way.

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How can you love someone who is hurting you?

(3) then expressing love.

I would add that you have to best determine the way to do this, as there is a balance between loving them, while also loving yourself.

I have tried to exercise total acceptance to see if it would transform someone, and if they would finally "get it".

It doesn't always work. You have to know when to love yourself, and walk away. There comes a point when someone's service is no longer beneficial to you, and you are not beneficial to them. Walking away is not non-acceptance, but the ability to not neglect the self which is just as important.