Thankyou Lorna!
Gosh is it wonderful to have a forum like this to turn to. Yes i think gender plays a part here, but the guys girlfriend was very aggressive also, but of course she defended her boyfriend. The man who's been living here for 30 years is dansih but i've noticed before he can't take advice from a woman, he is "nice" but you know i've been through a lot and i can sense the patriarchial smell from miles away, and i'm a strong but also oversensitive woman and i must finally step into my Plutonian strenght and not fall back on my oversocializing/fear of conflict/overidealizing Moon Neptune conjunction in Libra and Tsquare Venus/South Node in Libra where the Noth Node in Aries tells me to go my own way and not care too much about what pple might think or say.
Yes you're right about where the agression came from but on some level it also resides somewhere in my own psyche and i just wanted to try to lift this situation up to a higher level and see if i could have acted in some other way, i mean i didn't have to respond her "shut up" with "shut up yourself" and also in the debate i could have tried to respond in a calm way without rising my voice to the same level as theirs...
I will just withdraw for a while and also i'm going away for some time and then we'll see if the situation has settled. I met he spanish dogloving guy and i was right, the pitbullowner had told him about the incident and in his own naive way the spanyard tried to smooth things over by saying i could let my dog loose also and that the landlord doesn't "own" me as i told him i also was told a long time ago to have my dog in a leash
, that made my day Venus also trines my Ascendant 
Goodningt from Early Summer Gothenburg
Gosh is it wonderful to have a forum like this to turn to. Yes i think gender plays a part here, but the guys girlfriend was very aggressive also, but of course she defended her boyfriend. The man who's been living here for 30 years is dansih but i've noticed before he can't take advice from a woman, he is "nice" but you know i've been through a lot and i can sense the patriarchial smell from miles away, and i'm a strong but also oversensitive woman and i must finally step into my Plutonian strenght and not fall back on my oversocializing/fear of conflict/overidealizing Moon Neptune conjunction in Libra and Tsquare Venus/South Node in Libra where the Noth Node in Aries tells me to go my own way and not care too much about what pple might think or say.
Yes you're right about where the agression came from but on some level it also resides somewhere in my own psyche and i just wanted to try to lift this situation up to a higher level and see if i could have acted in some other way, i mean i didn't have to respond her "shut up" with "shut up yourself" and also in the debate i could have tried to respond in a calm way without rising my voice to the same level as theirs...
I will just withdraw for a while and also i'm going away for some time and then we'll see if the situation has settled. I met he spanish dogloving guy and i was right, the pitbullowner had told him about the incident and in his own naive way the spanyard tried to smooth things over by saying i could let my dog loose also and that the landlord doesn't "own" me as i told him i also was told a long time ago to have my dog in a leash
, that made my day Venus also trines my Ascendant Goodningt from Early Summer Gothenburg