2007.03.25 The Female Orgasm

[Monica]

Procreating as often as possible is for human males simply a recipe for disaster.

Men aren't procreating as much as they did before readily available contraception, but the biological urge is still there, which is considered by many 'experts' to be the explanation for higher rates of infidelity among men than among women:

22 percent of married men have strayed at least once during their married lives.
14 percent of married women have had affairs at least once during their married lives.
Conservative infedelity statistics estimate that "60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an extramarital affair.

http://womansavers.com/infidelity-statistics.asp

More interesting statistics, backing up the premise that women 'tend' to have more of an emotional connection to sex than men:

Women are less likely to cheat than men. While estimates of infidelity are difficult to establish, surveys consistently reveal that wives tend to be more faithful than husbands.
When a wife does cheat on her husband, she is more likely to have an emotional affair. Women are less likely than men to have a one night stand.
Because women are more likely to have an emotional affair, cheating wives tend to cheat with someone who is part of their social group – a friend, a co-worker, someone from school, church, etc.
A cheating wife is also more likely to swap up when she cheats. Cheating wives tend to have affairs with men who have more status and resources than their husbands. Or women cheat with men who are better relational partners – someone who is more attentive, appreciative and understanding.
A cheating wife is also more likely to consider leaving her husband when she is having an affair. Because female infidelity tends to be based on emotional intimacy, women often attach more significance to an affair.

http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/cheat...-wife.html

Men are more likely than women to cheat. It is estimated that close to 50% of all men will cheat at some point in their lives (see, why men cheat).
Husbands are also more likely to engage in online cheating – using chat rooms, webcams and online services to arrange sexual encounters (including prostitution).
The more money a husband makes, the more likely he is to be unfaithful. Having more money brings more opportunity and wealth tends to attract more women (also see, who is likely to cheat).
A lack of sexual excitement or the routine of having sex with the same person often leads men to stray. Men are more likely to be drawn to the thrill of having sex with someone new (also see, Coolidge Effect).
A cheating husband is more likely to have an affair with someone who is younger than his wife.
When having a one-night stand, men are less choosy than women when it comes to selecting someone to have sex with.
Husbands are more likely to feel that cheating is justified due to the lack of sex within a marriage.
Husbands are much more likely than wives to be serial cheaters (also see, husband constantly cheats and cheating husband survey).

http://www.truthaboutdeception.com/cheat...sband.html

The above 2 sites have references to back up the stats.

This is one of those sexist beliefs that has entered into our society.

I don't think so. It's not sexist to face the statistics. It is what it is. Statistically, men cheat more. They have more 1-night stands. They take longer to commit. When they do cheat, it's with women who are more attractive than their wives, so physical appearance is more of a factor; whereas with women (statistically) the emotional connection is more often a factor.

Of course there are plenty of exceptions. But these are just the statistics, showing the overall pattern.

But the fact is that reality doesn't obey that theory.

It may be that the theory is wrong, but the statistics clearly do show a difference in male and female behavior.

Human society is clearly not defined by alpha males. It's very rare you find a true alpha male in real life.

This is surprising to me. I've observed many men engaging in 1-upmanship my entire life. I see it all the time in men. In the workplace, in schools, etc. There are numerous books written about how men tend to try to outdo one another, while women tend to bond with one another.

Again, yes these traits are found in both men and women. But, I don't think the 'alpha male' behavior is rare at all.

Edit: There is an 'Alpha Female' type as well. It helps to remember that our planet is inhabited by people from, what, 13 different planets of origin? So a lot of the theories based on the (false) notion of a single species evolving from apes, fall flat because they fail to take that into consideration.