03-14-2012, 10:18 AM
Hey Norral,
I know you intended this as a lighthearted joke. And I certainly did get a good laugh out of your post, brother. Thanks for that levity in a sometimes too-serious world!
But I felt like I should mention that these kinds of statements reinforce gender stereotypes, as was briefly touched upon in a couple of recent threads. I believe that though we have physiological differences, our souls are beyond race, culture, and even gender. I always feel slightly uncomfortable when I come across something like this -- about either men or women. Or, worse, racial stuff.
I am a man, but I don't consider myself dense, and competetive team sports hold absolutely no interest for me AT ALL. I just don't care for them, or beer for that matter. A couple of specific passages in the Ra material helped me better understand this aversion to sports, for me at least, but I digress. I know many men are into sports, but I know first-hand that we don't all share this interest any more than all women love to shop. Nor do I think we're all really that dense -- at least, no denser than the average 3D being of any gender.
You do make a good overall point about communication, though, and I'd like to recognize that. Whether it's woman to man, man to woman, or within the same gender, I totally agree that it's better to communicate rather than assume the other person knows what you want. I love what you said -- "Tell him!!". It seems to me a great many misunderstandings are caused by one party assuming the other should "just know" and not communicating. We really can't read minds -- yet! So, thanks very much for raising this point!
As an aside, I view a love relationship as a wonderful opportunity for mutual service. My wife makes such an effort to help me with the things I need and consider important, that I am awed and humbled by her example of Service. It really inspires me to do the same for her. That's my natural inclination anyway, but this shared mutual service somehow strengthens that natural desire. Whether that means remembering to take out the garbage or something more complex.
Though of course we both forget sometimes or drop the ball... and that's where the communication comes in. By communicating, lovingly and kindly, we get back on track and the mutual service starts flowing again. I appreciate you reminding me of this today.
I hope this didn't come off as preachy. I know you didn't mean any insult with this, I just felt moved to speak up about the gender stereotype thing.
All that said, you got me on the potato chips. I try not to eat them too much but on some days ....I love em
Love to all
I know you intended this as a lighthearted joke. And I certainly did get a good laugh out of your post, brother. Thanks for that levity in a sometimes too-serious world!
But I felt like I should mention that these kinds of statements reinforce gender stereotypes, as was briefly touched upon in a couple of recent threads. I believe that though we have physiological differences, our souls are beyond race, culture, and even gender. I always feel slightly uncomfortable when I come across something like this -- about either men or women. Or, worse, racial stuff.
I am a man, but I don't consider myself dense, and competetive team sports hold absolutely no interest for me AT ALL. I just don't care for them, or beer for that matter. A couple of specific passages in the Ra material helped me better understand this aversion to sports, for me at least, but I digress. I know many men are into sports, but I know first-hand that we don't all share this interest any more than all women love to shop. Nor do I think we're all really that dense -- at least, no denser than the average 3D being of any gender.
You do make a good overall point about communication, though, and I'd like to recognize that. Whether it's woman to man, man to woman, or within the same gender, I totally agree that it's better to communicate rather than assume the other person knows what you want. I love what you said -- "Tell him!!". It seems to me a great many misunderstandings are caused by one party assuming the other should "just know" and not communicating. We really can't read minds -- yet! So, thanks very much for raising this point!
As an aside, I view a love relationship as a wonderful opportunity for mutual service. My wife makes such an effort to help me with the things I need and consider important, that I am awed and humbled by her example of Service. It really inspires me to do the same for her. That's my natural inclination anyway, but this shared mutual service somehow strengthens that natural desire. Whether that means remembering to take out the garbage or something more complex.
Though of course we both forget sometimes or drop the ball... and that's where the communication comes in. By communicating, lovingly and kindly, we get back on track and the mutual service starts flowing again. I appreciate you reminding me of this today.
I hope this didn't come off as preachy. I know you didn't mean any insult with this, I just felt moved to speak up about the gender stereotype thing.
All that said, you got me on the potato chips. I try not to eat them too much but on some days ....I love em
Love to all
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