The Quest for a Soulmate

[Steppingfeet]

I was very attached to a certain 'rockstar' look when I was a teenager. My husband is very good looking, but before I met him, I consciously and intentionally set aside my attachment to having a good-looking guy. It just wasn't important to me anymore. For me to do that, was a big thing. It required changing my priorities.

I even let go of the attachment to him being vegetarian. This was an even bigger deal than looks! And guess what? He wasn't a vegetarian yet. So if I'd had the criteria of wanting a vegetarian, I would have missed him!

For ME, it worked! It was spiritually fulfilling to let go of those attachments. I am simply sharing what happened in MY life.

Thankfully, my husband NOW fits all those desired traits that I had wanted but let go of (except the rock star hair!). And MORE. He is way MORE than I originally could have imagined! Rock star hair is just so unimportant, to me NOW. I chuckle at ever having wanted that, it's such a NON-issue.

But the point is, that at the time I was trying to find my soulmate, I gave up ALL attachments. I really really did. And very quickly after that, I found someone who ended up having the very qualities I would most want in a mate now. We ended up growing and changing together, and balancing each other out.

Agree with everything you said Monica - and still trying to live that! Damn if my expectations/attachments don't trip me up on a day-to-day basis.

There's a great line from a Dave Matthews Band song I love that goes:

"And if you hold on too tight
To what you think is your thing
You may find you're missing all the rest"

Song: Best of What's Around
Album: Under the Table and Dreaming
Artist: One of greatest of all times in the history of ever