The Quest for a Soulmate

[Diana]

well, that's how i perceive it. Monica was implying clearly with her words she did not approve of the "superficial and shallow" way to attract a mate. i don't appreciate that as i think what she perceives as shallow, isn't. how can i convey this to her? i can't.

Oceania, I think you may be taking personal offense where none was meant. We are not judging each other, merely discussing the topic and relating personal experiences and theories.

Even if someone here DID think the preference you describe was superficial, so what? (And just to be clear, I don't think anyone does think that.) It would only be an opinion, and it would not mean it was "right," or even rational. No one can take away your integrity.