Acceptance, Approval, and Other "A" Words

[Monica]

And yes, the weeds we spot burn are those awful hurting stickers - we call them goat heads - I think the correct name for them is puncturevine weed. They HURT!

Yes, those are quite nasty, and difficult to eradicate. They seem to have no redeeming value, as far as I can tell! Sort of like cockroaches.

I capture all other bugs and take them outside - including spiders, bees and wasps - but I confess to squashing cockroaches. They are an infestation, and I think they are populated with STS energies, so they simply have to go. And so it is with stickers. :-/

I did actually go quite ballistic last year when I caught him sneaking into my yard to dump weed killer. There is absolutely no way he got mixed signals from me. I have been very plain with him about it. I have had conversations with him many times about our being organic, about not poisoning the kids (there are many kids in our neighborhood - 6 total around his house alone) about the welfare of the Earth in general, and especially about our drinking water. He honestly just doesn't care.

Well, what I meant by 'mixed signals' is that, if he is seeing you pulling up weeds, then he might think you want to get rid of weeds. Aside from the stickers, if you are pulling up other weeds, he might think you wish to eradicate ALL weeds. Hence, my suggestion to tell him about how you LOVE weeds!

It is so unlike me to have bad feelings toward anyone for any reason. But this guy really gets to me. He creeped me out so badly when I first met him that I came straight home and checked the sex offender database (thankfully, he isn't listed). Still, I looked in the mirror and tried to figure out what my problem was. I had him over for dinner, hubby plowed his snow several times. I really tried to be a good neighbor - and have always talked to him about organics when he brought up the subject.

My ongoing problem, though, is with the very negative "vibes" I get from this guy whenever I am out working in the garden or doing my yard work. I realize I can't change him. But neither can I figure out how to change myself so that his energy doesn't bother me. And I try to send him love and light, but when I do, I feel I get a giant backwash of just pure yuck! It is very draining - just as Ra said it is.

I totally understand!! We had a neighbor who was like a black hole, very dense. He had some pit bulls that kept getting loose and killing the neighborhood cats. I kept trying to get him to fix his fence, to no avail. He was belligerent and irrational - a loose cannon!

What helped me was realizing how messed up he was. I prayed for him, felt genuine compassion for him - after all, he was quite ignorant, and not very smart, and obviously messed up emotionally - and I advised my husband to do the same.

After that, he moved away.

Here is a book that helped me tremendously, during this time, with specific techniques for dealing with obnoxious neighbors:

http://www.amazon.com/The-Inner-Guide-Me...342&sr=1-1