03-28-2012, 11:28 AM
Good post godwide_void...
I think from personal experience and what I've seen in other people the recurring negative state inducer is self judgment. A minor thing happens. Just bad luck, missing a bus for example. And this demon pops up and begins giving us all kinds of reasons why we have personally failed, and how this is typical for us.
This has absolutely no function. The obvious thought is that this will help us do things better the next time. Only it won't. It makes us behave like failures if we don't counter it with positive messages.
The best thing I think... is to employ unconditional positive self regard. Your intrinsic quality is awesomeness. And the mission is to chisel untill that inner quality shows. Which has two results, first of all you don't wallow in negativity, when negative states happen you just rise above them, your self dialogue just lifts you above it. And secondly you genuinely improve your life by chiseling.
I think from personal experience and what I've seen in other people the recurring negative state inducer is self judgment. A minor thing happens. Just bad luck, missing a bus for example. And this demon pops up and begins giving us all kinds of reasons why we have personally failed, and how this is typical for us.
This has absolutely no function. The obvious thought is that this will help us do things better the next time. Only it won't. It makes us behave like failures if we don't counter it with positive messages.
The best thing I think... is to employ unconditional positive self regard. Your intrinsic quality is awesomeness. And the mission is to chisel untill that inner quality shows. Which has two results, first of all you don't wallow in negativity, when negative states happen you just rise above them, your self dialogue just lifts you above it. And secondly you genuinely improve your life by chiseling.
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