I think that most (if not all) of our actions of polarity stem from what vibration our being is of in the moment. I also think that consciously deciding to do something STO rather than STS also helps us (me) polarize farther from STS / closer to STO.
I'll give an example:
One of my close friends is somewhat of a worrywart and he gets on my nerves a lot. He'll leave ten texts messages on my phone, six missed calls, and two voice mails every time he wants to kick it. He also usually follows up with a call or two to my house and someone will pick up the phone and hand it to me. I recently realized that when I screen his calls and ignore his texts, I'm being in service of self by avoiding the conflict of answering his (albeit unknowingly) rude remarks and blunt ways to put what he means to say. He constantly asks what I'm doing (rather than if im available; it's a bit prying) and presses for information as to why I don't want to hang out at a certain time or whatever.
I've decided, consciously, to stop avoiding his hails. I'm not sure exactly what implications this has on my being/vibration, but it's much less STS than what I used to do (methinks). A not-unexpected result of my answering his calls is the necessity to deal with his personality and the quirks that specifically irk me.
In conclusion, yes I think that the constant identification of STS vs STO actions in my own life has helped me polarize. I think that, in general, putting myself into uncomfortable situations consciously rather than being service to self yields this effect: I am choosing consciously not to participate in STS actions. This inadvertently leads me to be forced to deal with aspects of my shadow-self that I either haven't met yet or haven't dealt with yet. Love/Light
I'll give an example:
One of my close friends is somewhat of a worrywart and he gets on my nerves a lot. He'll leave ten texts messages on my phone, six missed calls, and two voice mails every time he wants to kick it. He also usually follows up with a call or two to my house and someone will pick up the phone and hand it to me. I recently realized that when I screen his calls and ignore his texts, I'm being in service of self by avoiding the conflict of answering his (albeit unknowingly) rude remarks and blunt ways to put what he means to say. He constantly asks what I'm doing (rather than if im available; it's a bit prying) and presses for information as to why I don't want to hang out at a certain time or whatever.
I've decided, consciously, to stop avoiding his hails. I'm not sure exactly what implications this has on my being/vibration, but it's much less STS than what I used to do (methinks). A not-unexpected result of my answering his calls is the necessity to deal with his personality and the quirks that specifically irk me.
In conclusion, yes I think that the constant identification of STS vs STO actions in my own life has helped me polarize. I think that, in general, putting myself into uncomfortable situations consciously rather than being service to self yields this effect: I am choosing consciously not to participate in STS actions. This inadvertently leads me to be forced to deal with aspects of my shadow-self that I either haven't met yet or haven't dealt with yet. Love/Light