02-18-2015, 10:31 PM
(02-18-2015, 05:34 PM)Monica Wrote: Parsons, I'm not interested, other than to say that victims don't stand up for themselves. Victims let others vomit on them. I don't. So your analysis is rather amusing.
Regardless, at the end of the day, anything you can accuse me of pales in comparison to supporting the rape, torture and slaughter of sentient beings.
So if you're proposing a contest, you can find someone else to play with.
Actually, people with victim mentality have a relatively wide range of reactions (or a combination of all of them):
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Victim_mentality#Features Wrote:A victim mentality may manifest itself in a range of different behaviors or ways of thinking and talking:
People with victim mentality may develop convincing and sophisticated arguments in support of such ideas, which they then use to convince themselves and others of their victim status.
- Blaming others for a situation that one has created oneself or significantly contributed to. Failing or being unwilling to take responsibility for one's own actions or actions to which one has contributed or for taking action to ameliorate the situation.
- Ascribing non-existent negative intentions to other people (similar to paranoia).
- Believing that other people are generally or fundamentally luckier and happier ("Why me?").
- Gaining short-term pleasure from feeling sorry for oneself or eliciting pity from others. Eliciting sympathy by telling exaggerated stories about bad deeds of other people (e.g. during gossip).
People with victim mentality may also be generally:
- negative, with a general tendency to focus on bad rather than good aspects of a situation. A glass that is half full is considered half empty. A person with a high standard of living complains about not having enough money. A healthy person complains of minor health problems that others would ignore (cf. hypochondriasis).
- self-absorbed: unable or reluctant to consider a situation from the point of view of other people or to "walk a mile in their shoes".
- defensive: In conversation, reading a non-existent negative intention into a neutral question and reacting with a corresponding accusation, hindering the collective solution of problems and instead creating unnecessary conflict.
- categorizing: tending to divide people into "goodies" and "baddies" with no gray zone between them.
- unadventurous: generally unwilling to take risks; exaggerating the importance or likelihood of possible negative outcomes.
- exhibiting learned helplessness: underestimating one's ability or influence in a given situation; feeling powerless.
- stubborn: tending to reject suggestions or constructive criticism from others who listen and care; unable or reluctant to implement the suggestions of others for one's own benefit.
- self-abasing: Putting oneself down even further than others are supposedly doing.