Love is on the other side of Anger
09-15-2018, 03:29 AM,
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Love is on the other side of Anger
 
This is an unusually long session (going on to the "third side" of the tape, as it were) with wide-ranging Q's & A's.


Those seeking to learn lessons of Love may find this except worthy of a quick read.


http://www.llresearch.org/transcripts/issues/1983/1983_0102.aspx Wrote:C: Yes, Latwii, could you enlighten me as to what is the emotion of anger?

I am Latwii. To begin, may we suggest, my brother, that if one investigates that emotion called anger carefully, one will discover that it is what you might call the other side of the coin which is love. For if one attempts to love, one attempts to give freely of the self to another. Yet upon your planet this concept finds few pure expressions. The concept of love has become mixed, shall we say, with your concepts of trade and barter. Conditions have been put upon this concept so that when one gives of the self, gives of the feelings and the emotions of the heart of the being, quite often it is expected by such an one that the one receiving the love must also in some like manner return it. Thus, the love is not given freely. When this perception persists within the being of one loving—that return must be made, that return is not being made—there frequently begins the growth of that emotion which becomes the anger. This feeling of anger is a distortion of the love which has not been reciprocated. The anger grows as the entity feels it has been, shall we say, shortchanged or betrayed. Thus, if you will look to the heart of anger you will find some distortion that will lead you to the heart of love.

May we answer you further, my brother?

C: Yes. I’m asking these questions because I’m having an extremely difficult time at the present of dealing with anger, and earlier today I had a release of this emotion, and afterwards, looking backwards, I could not see myself during the release, and those around me, including my young baby, did not seem to even recognize me when I was in that state. Is there something else taking control when one’s frustrations are suddenly released?

I am Latwii, and am aware of your query, my brother. Though it is possible that entities of an elemental or even a negative nature might utilize such instances to reinforce the concept of separation which anger demonstrates, it is most usually the case that just as the expression of love in its pure form has been distorted and blocked, thus causing the anger, so also has the expression of anger been blocked for a portion of what you call time. This causes within the entity so blocking the anger a buildup which might be likened unto the iceberg, where only the tip is apparent and the small trigger is all that is necessary for the remainder to come to the fore and for the entity expressing the anger that has been built up and blocked to appear as another entity. If this anger and its blockage, the love and its blockage are examined, the entity will find within this situation the great opportunity for experiencing and expressing love in its pure form. For when the anger finally comes boiling out, then the situation is such that it is most difficult to ignore further and the reconciliation can begin and this path may then lead to the heart of love.

May we answer you further, my brother?

C: Yes. I have an extremely difficult time dealing with frustrations as they occur and keep many things bottled tightly within me. It is very rare that I am able to open myself to others and release the anger before it gets to a point where I simply blow. I don’t ask for specifics, but would appreciate it if you would speak to me on how one might release one’s anger before it builds to a point where one blows.

I am Latwii. My brother, may we suggest that you observe the garden in the spring. As the seeds have been sown and sprout, so also sprout those seeds not intended, the weeds. And when this garden is ignored day after day, the weeds became strong in growth, and begin to overtake the seeds that were intended to be the garden. As you move through your illusion, take time each day in your meditative state to examine the catalysts which you experienced each day. Where you find anger, it is not necessary that it be expressed towards the entity in your physical illusion for the catalyst to work and teach you the lesson that you desire. You may instead experience that anger within meditation, and allow that anger to build until it does overwhelm your senses as has occurred this day. Then see within your mind the balance to the anger. For but a moment visualize the unconditional love. Then allow your inner senses to move from the overwhelming anger by their own energy towards the love. Allow this to occur until you feel love in the same proportion that you felt anger. Then see yourself as having two means for the Creator to know Itself within your being, and feel then the acceptance of yourself for yourself while expressing both anger and love.

If you would look at your life and your lessons each day in this manner in meditation, you will be accomplishing the same as the gardener who pulls the weeds each day so that the fruit of the garden may have a chance for harvest.


I have found it comforting to remember that I feel more whole when offering love unconditionally.  Personally, I am easily triggered by people doing crazy, selfish crap while driving.  In light of this excerpt, it's funny to think that I resent such souls not offering love to those around them when I so easily offer them loveless anger in return for their actions.  Luckily, in my area I'm going to get lots of practice on the road working to offer such other selves "the other side of the coin of anger."
 
 
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09-15-2018, 09:33 AM,
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RE: Love is on the other side of Anger
This pertains quite heavily to the issues I've been facing with my ex-friend. I feel great anger because I felt such great love and that love feels so thoroughly unreciprocated. And I feel such pain. I know why the STS path is considered to be learning lessons in self love... these hurt, aggrieved souls feel themselves unworthy of the love they refuse to give. Because if they deserved love, wouldn't they have gotten it?

Why is it that somebody I loved so deeply didn't think I was worth working to make things work with? No matter what I did wrong, I ALWAYS loved this friend enough to work at trying to correct it.

And a great anger sets in and I have a hard time letting go.

It feels like I'm allowing myself to be shortchanged by forgiving without recompense. Like I'm not loving myself enough. But chances are it's the exact opposite. And I know it in my head, but my heart can't understand...
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09-15-2018, 09:56 AM,
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RE: Love is on the other side of Anger
I remember throughout the friendship, stonewalling in the face of problems was always the answer. At some point, in pain, I replicated this and got the ultimate stonewalling.

This person gave up on me out of fear and hurt. A lack of self love. A lack of self faith.

I always had the courage to never give up on myself, no matter what I've been put througgh and no matter how hurt and no matter how much I've been given the message I'm not worth it.

I forgive my friend for not sharing this courage. I wish they had faith in the self they saw in me.

Maybe I can manifest reconciliation by choosing to have faith in the self I see in them?
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09-15-2018, 10:29 AM, (This post was last modified: 09-15-2018, 10:53 AM by EvolvingPhoenix.)
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RE: Love is on the other side of Anger
So what do I do with all this pain? What do I do with all this disappointment? PLEASE don't tell me to feel it in my body or just let it go or some hippy dippy feel good bullshit. BECAUSE HANDLING IT BY DOING THAT s*** DOESN'T HAVE ANY MEANING TO ME. It just doesn't resonate.

Oh, you're in pain because you've been coldly cast out by somebody who didn't value you enough to think you were worth it? Even though you loved them deeply? Just let it go.

WELL I CAN'T. Because "just" letting it go carries NO FUCKIN MEANING TO ME. NONE. It doesn't resolve anything. And I can't pretend there's nothing to resolve. BECAUSE YES THERE IS.

Maybe this is what Ra meant when he said the 5th density wanderers perceived an overabundance of love on Venus?

Letting go without understanding...

I can let go of the resentment now, but what about this pain?
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09-15-2018, 10:47 AM,
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RE: Love is on the other side of Anger
I just realized something...

If my friend is THIS angry with me, its because they love me that deeply...

If they cannot forgive me, it's because they love me too deeply to face the comparative sense of inadequacy they have within themselves. They're worried they're not worthy, or they would not be so vengeful.
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09-15-2018, 10:49 AM,
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RE: Love is on the other side of Anger
(09-15-2018, 10:29 AM)EvolvingPhoenix Wrote:  So what do I do with all this pain? What do I do with all this disappointment? PLEASE don't tell me to feel it in my body or just let it go or some hippy dippy feel good bullshit. BECAUSE HANDLING IT BY DOING THAT s*** DOESN'T HAVE ANY MEANING TO ME. It just doesn't resonate.

Oh, you're in pain because you've been coldly cast out by somebody who didn't value you enough to think you were worth it? Even though you loved them deeply? Just let it go.

WELL I CAN'T. Because "just" letting it go carries NO FUCKIN MEANING TO ME. NONE. It doesn't resolve anything. And I can't pretend there's nothing to resolve. BECAUSE YES THERE IS.

Maybe this is what Ra meant when he said the 5th density wanderers perceived an overabundance of love on Venus?

Letting go without understanding...

I can let go of the resentment now, but what about this pain?
No one here can help you. This is not understanding that can be achieved through reading. It can only be done. It can only be realized through one's own experiences and doings. All is One, what imbalance leads to this over attachment and thus pain? All moves and flows endlessly.
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09-15-2018, 10:52 AM, (This post was last modified: 09-15-2018, 10:54 AM by EvolvingPhoenix.)
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RE: Love is on the other side of Anger
My friend cannot reconcile the love for me with the lack of self love. And the entire STS thing is based on that: People deeply loving other-selves, but not loving the self enough to face the illusion of inadequacy compared to the other-selves they love so deeply. They wouldn't take that path if they felt safe. They wouldn't take that path if the didn't love other-selves deeply, but fear they themselves to be unworthy of the love they feel went unreciprocated...
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09-15-2018, 11:04 AM, (This post was last modified: 09-15-2018, 02:03 PM by peregrine.)
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RE: Love is on the other side of Anger
You describe very well, EP, the Path of Confusion.  According to Confederation sources, you're doing things just right.  You're thoroughly confounded and confused.

I know it damned well it stinks.  I've had similar experiences of tromping around in the same territory endless times, looking for a way out.    That's the catalyst.  So, what's the solution?  Start looking in a different place for a way out.  Where is that?

I can't show you where your heart is.  You have to find it for yourself.  But that's the place where the sturm und drang suffered in the realm of the lower energies can begin to interweave with the higher energies and relieve that suffering.  Verily, I say unto you, friend, until you can rest in the peace of the heart of your own being, your suffering--although it may change hue or tonality--will never leave you.  Again, that's the catalyst you evidently chose to offer yourself during this brief terrestrial sojourn.

So, how do you get there?  Naturally, I can't say how you will get there, but I can offer some things you could try.  First, where possible, put yourself in the presence of holy beings and holy places so that you can get a feel for what divine love feels like when its offered extrinsically.  

As for the intrinsic experience, the general guidance there is that all of these active energies in your lower centers (the complaining, the suffering, the conflicts, the avoiding, etc.), all of these must come to understand that the only way forward is for ALL of them to make a pilgrimage to, you guessed it, to your heart.  

How do you organize such a mass pilgrimage?  First, you must discover your heart and its potential to love and to heal.  Second, begin bringing portions of yourself there for comfort, then more will follow.

How do you initially discover your heart and its potential to love and to heal?  You use your everyday catalyst to practice repeatedly choosing love as a response to it.  The more this happens, the more deeply you will discover your own capacity to give and receive love.  As you progress, you will become less interested in giving the love that comes from you in favor of offering that divine love which can come through you.

This process can take a lifetime, so don't be in too much of a hurry.  If you find yourself in a hurry, bring that anxious part of you to your heart for comfort.


I have a personal policy of generally trying to not give advice.  For some reason, this just slipped out.

 
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