02-07-2022, 07:43 PM
It's not meant to be a put down either, we can only handle what we can at any given moment, bypassing can be a temporary measure until we are ready. It is just important to realize/identify it and always strive to self evaluate (in a healthy constructive manner) whether we might be avoiding, and just put it on the TBD to do list.
For myself, I know I am avoiding certain situations I can't handle with grace, because it's more important for me currently to remain grounded than to process catalyst in the grocery store with respect to the guy who is trying his best to control my behavior. So I decided to recluse myself to the truck while my partner does the shopping. But I know I cannot hide forever, and I will have to learn to adapt to the current injustices enforced upon me by undeserved authority, something I've spent a lifetime struggling with. Seeing that through a different lens has definitely helped, but adapting that in real time (emotional space) takes time to integrate. And so baby steps.
For myself, I know I am avoiding certain situations I can't handle with grace, because it's more important for me currently to remain grounded than to process catalyst in the grocery store with respect to the guy who is trying his best to control my behavior. So I decided to recluse myself to the truck while my partner does the shopping. But I know I cannot hide forever, and I will have to learn to adapt to the current injustices enforced upon me by undeserved authority, something I've spent a lifetime struggling with. Seeing that through a different lens has definitely helped, but adapting that in real time (emotional space) takes time to integrate. And so baby steps.