This will be the most controversial thing I will say.

[Jade]

I personally feel that you are entirely right. Our shadow selves are what we project onto other selves that make them unpalatable. Integrating our shadow into ourselves dissolves that separation. When you see that all are one, good and bad, and love all as the same, that is unity, that is love, that is etc etc etc etc ad infinitum...

It is a challenge, but it doesn't have to be a tooth and nail struggle every step, unless you want it to be. Loving the ups and downs of the journey is part of it all. Being grateful for every catalyst in the moment is a goal we all are constantly seeking.