[split] "Some people eat animals, some don't."

[Jade]

So we can throw Bluebell under the bus, but we shouldn't talk about others, right?  

I was just pointing out that she was accepted for who she was, no matter what—even crossing guidelines all over the place. I'm just asking that a little acceptance be given to Monica, a little kind understanding. 

And I will also take responsibility for using Bluebell as an example, though it was not my intention to throw her under the bus. I should have said, some members, though if I had my point would not have been as clear. That is not an excuse, just a reason.

Yes, using specific examples of each others' actions is indeed one valuable way to learn/teach, I agree with that.