Forgiveness: What about it?

[Monica]

I do realize this, so I would ask you to please elaborate on your idea. 

I just posted this earlier today in another thread. I think it applies here also:

14.20 Questioner: And you ready yourselves for harvest through [the] best service you can provide. Is this correct?
Ra: This is correct. We offer the Law of One, the solving of paradoxes, the balancing of love/light and light/love.

67.11 Questioner: Then how could we solve this paradox?
Ra: I am Ra. Consider, if you will, that you have no ability not to serve the Creator since all is the Creator. In your individual growth patterns appear the basic third-density choice. Further, there are overlaid memories of the positive polarizations of your home density. Thus your particular orientation is strongly polarized towards service to others and has attained wisdom as well as compassion.

You do not have merely two opposite requests for service. You will find an infinite array of contradictory requests for information or lack of information from this source if you listen carefully to those whose voices you may hear. This is all one voice to which you resonate upon a certain frequency. This frequency determines your choice of service to the One Creator. As it happens this group’s vibratory patterns and those of Ra are compatible and enable us to speak through this instrument with your support. This is a function of free will.

A portion, seemingly, of the Creator rejoices at your choice to question us regarding the evolution of spirit. A seemingly separate portion would wish for multitudinous answers to a great range of queries of a specific nature. Another seemingly separate group of your peoples would wish this correspondence through this instrument to cease, feeling it to be of a negative nature. Upon the many other planes of existence there are those whose every fiber rejoices at your service and those such as the entity of whom you have been speaking which wish only to terminate the life upon the third-density plane of this instrument. All are the Creator. There is one vast panoply of biases and distortions, colors and hues, in an unending pattern. In the case of those with whom you, as entities and as a group, are not in resonance, you wish them love, light, peace, joy, and bid them well. No more than this can you do for your portion of the Creator is as it is and your experience and offering of experience, to be valuable, needs be more and more a perfect representation of who you truly are. Could you, then, serve a negative entity by offering the instrument’s life? It is unlikely that you would find this a true service. Thus you may see in many cases the loving balance being achieved, the love being offered, light being sent, and the service of the service-to-self oriented entity gratefully acknowledged while being rejected as not being useful in your journey at this time. Thus you serve One Creator without paradox.

Forgiveness is a rather complex topic, but in a nutshell I'd say it's choosing to have compassion and wish love/light/peace/joy towards those with whom we've had conflicts, even if they've deeply hurt us...especially if they've deeply hurt us. It is pouring water over a raging blaze, instead of fighting fire with fire with continued resentment/hate/bitterness. We might still feel hurt. It might still take us a while to heal. And we certainly must protect ourselves from further hurt. But we can simultaneously do all those things.

A victim can simultaneously choose to leave the abuser, and forgive them. Forgiveness does NOT mean continuing to allow the abuse! Acceptance doesn't mean that either (though it is commonly misinterpreted, in my opinion).

According to Ra, forgiveness breaks the cycle of karma.

Ever since I can remember I have walked my Life by learning and integrating spiritual rules and knowledge.  It is from this premise that the Idea of bathing all my experience with unconditional love came about.

That sounds like a wonderful way to live!

That does NOT mean I let people walk all over me!

Absolutely agree!

I never take what I read at face value unless it resonates with me on a very deep level. I try too see the value it has for me in my own personal walk.

That is wise!

I realize that many people here have a wider knowledge base of the material, so I can't dispute that.  But to be honest it feels like you are getting ahead of yourselves in many ways, sort of looks like you're on the outskirts looking in while the world is going to hell. 

Yes, I've noticed that too. Please know that Not everyone here has the 'anything goes' attitude.

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