"You create your reality"

[anagogy]

If you were an entity who was alone and wounded and a stranger came upon you and told you essentially to "stop it", would you assume they were offering you friendly and helpful advice?

Well, that is overly simplistic in my opinion. But if someone explained, repeatedly, ad infinitum, that that thing I was doing was doing the opposite of what I wanted it to do, I would hope one might pause and at least ponder the efficacy (or lack thereof) of one's behavior. As for whether they saw it as friendly? Perhaps not at first, but in time they would see its helpful nature.

I said this is about third density. You are talking about "through the eyes of wisdom" (5th density and above). The other part of that quote is that martyrdom is "the salvation of third density". What about that?

It is the salvation of third density because there is so little love here, but as Ra states in that same quote that it ultimately creates a mismatch in the ultimate scheme of energy balance. It is an absolute relief to the harsh reality of 3rd density but that doesn't mean that there aren't more finessed and refined applications of love that become apparent with higher density wisdom (that are still wholly applicable within this realm). Why use a rock to hammer out a distortion when the scalpel is available? I've seen plenty of situations in my life where tough love had far more of an efficacious impact than unrelenting fluff. Different strokes for different folks. There are many different teachers. A message is never going to resonate with everyone universally. That would be an impossible and unrealistic expectation.

I'm of the opinion that if a doctor is aware that his medicine tastes terrible and gets feedback as such, that maybe mixing a little sweetener into the serum might make it more palatable and therefore make the patient more likely to ingest said medicine for its cumulative effects.

Analogies don't always paint a clear or reliable picture, but they can be fun.