07-14-2018, 04:58 PM
(07-14-2018, 04:52 PM)the Wrote:(07-14-2018, 03:39 PM)EvolvingPhoenix Wrote: Part of the reason I'm struggling there is because there are ways I've been treated unfairly and I have let 99%+ of it go, but my latest friendship breakup hurts because I know SO MUCH of it was my own faultI am following "Create Yourself Create Your Life" book/practice, there're specific chapters on Give/Receive/Create forgiveness, and "find forgiveness for everything in your life".
that works to me well. feel free to try if it resonates with you, this is the book link:
https://zingdad.com/publications/books/c...-your-life
You know... I don't think it'll help.
I can't forgive them if I am unsure what to forgive them for.
I can't forgive myself if I am unsure what to forgive myself for.
Everything I DO know I f***** up, do what I can to be as understanding of as possible, but it's the questions I DON'T have answered that make it hard to forgive, for I am unsure what even needs forgiving. It matters. Maybe not to you or the author of the book, but it does to me. And I know none of you know a whole lot about my situation so I can't expect any of you to be able to help me.
I wanna know they were in the wrong for me to forgive before I can forgive and I want to know I was in the wrong before I can forgive.
I don't want to be "Forgiven" for doing nothing wrong. I want to be VINDICATED. And I don't want to "forgive them" for doing nothing wrong, I would rather apologize for blaming them in the first place. But only where we WEREN'T wrong.
After the questions are answered, forgiveness can be easier cause I'll be able to be sure about what I'm forgiving.