To fight or not to fight (in 3d and 4d)?

[einmal]

It's only your example I find possible to comment towards.

How can someone who wants to be STO deal with negativity in family for example?

Sometimes just by accepting it, to start with. If you try to accelerate their polarization in the direction you think they should go, then aren't you effectively taking over still? It's not really in the STO nature to be aggressively proactive towards manifesting change. Perhaps I'm speaking too authoritatively, here. Feel free to disagree. But as someone relatively distanced from family, I see that a lot of people really are too close to their family in their hearts/heads to effectively take a truly detached, LOO-based approach towards family matters. Basically, how can you deal with negativity in your family? Stop seeing them as your family could help with a more neutral first step towards a rational approach.

I feel like this is going to be unpopular, feel free to disagree.