EP so sorry for your pain my friend.
If we keep in mind that nothing, no pain, that we get through is not above what we can bear, but always there so we see that in fact we can get through it, then we can see, taking a step back, that everything is useful, right ?
For exemple, in a book published on genetics a few years ago, it was found that when there was the last great famine in Ireland, a pregnant mother had suffered from this famine and her genes had muted because of this famine, the baby in the womb, a little girl had suffered this pre-natal shock that you mentioned, and even though in the last months of pregnancy, the famine had ended, the baby was born with symptoms of stress that her mother had had before and the child's DNA presented the same gene mutation than her mother. Even though there was not another famine in Ireland, that baby as an adult would had a different attitude and ' preparation' to famine if such had happened again. But we are outside and we can't judge of the usefulness or not that this mutation may have brought to her life, if only because of the law in infringement, right ? But we may trust that this served a purpose.
it is close to impossible for each one of us to shed light on the exact purpose for someone else, if only for protection of privacy, but let me explain what something like that could have worked for me ?
When my father returned from concentration camp in 1944, my mother tried to get pregnant and failed once, since she had known hunger during nazy occupation in france and her body was depleted. I was finally born in 1946. I was, like my mother very shy, and as a toddler and young child, was told that I couldn't listen to talks about war, couldn't hear the noise of a plane above without running and hide, like under a blanket or a pillow, so much so that it impressed my mother and that she told me about it, all this while, yet, I was born in a period of peace, after the war.
But in the end somehow somewhere this must have been extremely useful because while small I remember pushing myself to go out there and become courageous and physically adventurous and all this ensuing, and today when I look back at all these formative years, I can see all the work I did, and how everything seemed to be a mountain but finally I would make it bit by bit. Even if today it seems to me not that particularly courageous, but the funny thing is that today, when I have an obstacle to overcome, I see how the courage as a small child is useful. I wonder, EP, if you look back on all those years behind you do not see many many times where you behaved with such courage as to overtake whatever obstacles came your way. I think you need to recognize all that you have accomplished. I mean this, seriously. I would take the time to review, and pat myself on the back, you will be astounded by all you did, I bet you anything.
And then we can feel, even if trauma doesn't necessarily point to an effective tool, we can feel some trust that this is part of a whole building structure for whatever we came here to experience
If we keep in mind that nothing, no pain, that we get through is not above what we can bear, but always there so we see that in fact we can get through it, then we can see, taking a step back, that everything is useful, right ?
For exemple, in a book published on genetics a few years ago, it was found that when there was the last great famine in Ireland, a pregnant mother had suffered from this famine and her genes had muted because of this famine, the baby in the womb, a little girl had suffered this pre-natal shock that you mentioned, and even though in the last months of pregnancy, the famine had ended, the baby was born with symptoms of stress that her mother had had before and the child's DNA presented the same gene mutation than her mother. Even though there was not another famine in Ireland, that baby as an adult would had a different attitude and ' preparation' to famine if such had happened again. But we are outside and we can't judge of the usefulness or not that this mutation may have brought to her life, if only because of the law in infringement, right ? But we may trust that this served a purpose.
it is close to impossible for each one of us to shed light on the exact purpose for someone else, if only for protection of privacy, but let me explain what something like that could have worked for me ?
When my father returned from concentration camp in 1944, my mother tried to get pregnant and failed once, since she had known hunger during nazy occupation in france and her body was depleted. I was finally born in 1946. I was, like my mother very shy, and as a toddler and young child, was told that I couldn't listen to talks about war, couldn't hear the noise of a plane above without running and hide, like under a blanket or a pillow, so much so that it impressed my mother and that she told me about it, all this while, yet, I was born in a period of peace, after the war.
But in the end somehow somewhere this must have been extremely useful because while small I remember pushing myself to go out there and become courageous and physically adventurous and all this ensuing, and today when I look back at all these formative years, I can see all the work I did, and how everything seemed to be a mountain but finally I would make it bit by bit. Even if today it seems to me not that particularly courageous, but the funny thing is that today, when I have an obstacle to overcome, I see how the courage as a small child is useful. I wonder, EP, if you look back on all those years behind you do not see many many times where you behaved with such courage as to overtake whatever obstacles came your way. I think you need to recognize all that you have accomplished. I mean this, seriously. I would take the time to review, and pat myself on the back, you will be astounded by all you did, I bet you anything.
And then we can feel, even if trauma doesn't necessarily point to an effective tool, we can feel some trust that this is part of a whole building structure for whatever we came here to experience
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